Category Archives: Infidelity Pain

11 Ways Worry Kills Your Marriage

Worry is fretting. Worry is bound by fearful thoughts. Worry is being nervous, uptight or anxious. Worry feels threatened. Worry is a bundle of nerves. This anxiety gets in your way. It becomes a detriment. It only contributes to more … Continue reading

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Marriage Crisis: Get in Control of Your Feelings

I was raised in Northwestern Illinois and the highlight of every summer was the County Fair. On Saturday night thousands would flock to the Fairground Stands to watch the Demolition Derby. In case you are not familiar, a demolition derby … Continue reading

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4 Reasons an Affair or Marital Crisis Kills your Self Esteem

Nothing tears at your self esteem and sense of well being more than a marital crisis. The question is often posed to me by someone in the midst of a painful relationship upheaval: “What did I do wrong?” You assume … Continue reading

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Infidelity Pain: The Key to Hurting Less

A marriage crisis brings all your pain and hurt, seemingly buried for years, screaming at you. You are in pain! You are in a ton of hurt. The pain can be incredible, debilitating and persistent: It just won’t let you … Continue reading

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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading

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You are Not a Bad Person

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make … Continue reading

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Distance is a Way to Cope

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… The intent of your pulling away or distancing is not malicious or evil. Your tendency to back away is merely a way for you to cope with … Continue reading

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Honesty in Marriage: How You Can Heal Your Marriage by Revealing Your Infidelity

Is there a difference between revealing your infidelity to your partner and allowing him or her to find out from another person or source? Yes, there definitely is! You may think that it’s all the same, that he or she … Continue reading

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Saving the Marriage by Healing the Past

There are plenty of things that need to be dealt with when you are saving the marriage after infidelity. Although trust is a major issue that the couple needs to handle, it is not the only one. A common problem … Continue reading

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Signs of a Cheating Spouse: What You Need to Know

What are the things that you need to know to be able to tell the difference between the signs of a cheating spouse and infidelity? Extramarital affairs and sexual encounters are not done to form or experience intimacy or some … Continue reading

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