Emotional Infidelity: A Love Affair or Just Friends?
by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach
A common plea: But, we're "just friends." However the "emotional connection" is quite obvious by the amount of time spent in communication and the "vibes" that are set off.
These emotional connections often arise at work or in a social context in which working intensively toward a common goal consumes energy.
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Here are a few observations of the "just friends" emotional affair:
1. This person often struggles knowing where to draw the line. S/he often throws him/herself into something 100%. Other aspects of his/her life may suffer or be ignored. There often is a lack of personal balance between family, work, self care.
2. He/she struggles with intimacy. (I want to be close to someone, but don't like intimacy.) The "just friends" emotional affair means neither spouse nor OP (other person) ever get "intimate." Neither relationship is fully consummated or has potential for growth.
3. Of course the "just friends" comment means either "stay away" or I'm, underneath all this, really confused about where I fit in relationships, what I want from them, or what they mean to me. There is an "emotional connection" to the OP that defies description. A sad kind of "stuckness or lostness."
The lover or "falling in love" emotional affair has a different twist.
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This article is part of a series of articles written by Dr. Huizenga. He responds in practical and heart-felt ways to pressing issues such as:
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46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair
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Extramarital Affair: Their Sex is not "Always Hot"
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Day of Discovery: I'm a Mess! Do I Need Meds?
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Infidelity: Why the Need to Know is so Strong
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Signs of Infidelity: My Marriage Made Me Do it
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Emotional Infidelity: A KEY Tactic to Save the Marriage
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Sexually Addicted? Ten Important Questions to Ask
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Infidelity Recovery: What is it with Men?
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