A Little Bit About Me
D.Min., LMFT, CSW
Hello! When I explore a new site, I typically first link to a page about the person behind the site.. I want you to know a few things about me and why this site is important to me.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Psychotherapist I’ve spent the majority of my life (over two decades) working with hundreds of couples and thousands individuals experiencing individual and marital problems (such as affairs).
In my marriage I also was confronted powerfully with an affair. (No, professionals are not immune! Actually, there are some qualities about therapists that tend to generate relational problems.)
For 3-4 years I spent tremendous energy learning, reading, healing, talking, changing patterns and working through my pain with my friends, my coach, therapist and with my spouse. As I look back, it was one of the best things that happened to me. I wish it was easier, but…oh well. Who said this would be easy?
The purpose of this site is to help you. I combine my professional and personal experience to provide you with, what I truly believe, a unique but incredibly accurate and helpful way to get to the heart of the affair in your marriage and pinpoint exactly what you can do to break free from the affair.
So…more about me. Here’s a little:
•A couple of good friends.
•A sweet 7-iron shot. I love the 7 iron. Don’t know why, but it really feels good.
•Thunderstorms and green grass.
•The Atlanta Braves and Green Bay Packers. My Dad would take me to Braves games in Milwaukee and The Pack was the Pack when I was adolescent. Enough said. Well, not quite; sports and competition have been and still are good friends.
•A good book on spirituality (not religion). Still trying to figure out what this is all about…and feel ok about it!
Personal Least Favorites
•People whose world is right/wrong and/or good/bad.
•Sitcoms on TV and TV in general, unless it’s the Braves or the History Channel.
•People who are late.
Personal Mission Statement
I live each moment with an appreciation for that moment. Within that moment I am given the opportunity to discover more fully my strengths, how they are called forth and am reminded that I am a unique person wanting to serve and participate. I live with no regrets for the past or worry about my future.
I accept responsibility for my actions and thoughts. I am responsible for eliciting from my friends, colleagues, family, community, clients and the universe what I need, want or desire. Within that responsibility I find tremendous freedom and joy.
I am a person of integrity, who does the right thing, yet is not bound compulsively by rules. I continually upgrade my personal foundation and intentionally set increasingly high standards for myself. I surround myself with people who accept me and consciously and willingly meet my needs. I give a high priority to caring for myself physically, emotionally, socially and spiritually.
I create reserves of money, energy, time, opportunities and people, that enable and call forth extreme generosity and limitless creativity.
I view my existence as a lifelong process of development and unfolding, tremendously exhilarating and never completed. I welcome the edge of growth and exploration.
My vision for coaching and working with others begins with a desire to add significant value to those I choose to work with and to offer world class service. My ultimate goals are to work with others to expand more fully their world, help them appreciate and utilize strengths and to ultimately watch them develop a life in which they attract without struggle their most important successes.
I develop lifelong relationships, based on mutual trust and confidence, from which a community of like-minded successful people emerges.
Here’s the Professional part of me:
•Licensed by the State of Michigan as a Marriage and Family Therapist
•Licensed by the State of Michigan as a Certified Social Worker
•Member of the International Coaching Federation
•Member of Coach University.
•Masters of Divinity Degree.
•Doctorate of Ministry in Marriage and Family Therapy.
•Specialized Training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing for trauma and performance enhancement.