Save Yourself Time, Mistakes and Agony

First, the bad news…

It usually takes 6 to 48 months to break free from the affair, stabilize your self and relationships and get some "normalcy" back in your life. The 6 to 48 months depends primarily on the kind of affair facing you and the route and strategies you take in resolving the affair. Some affairs take longer than others. And, what you do will either help you move faster or slow you down through breaking free.

Here's the good news…

The affair in your marriage is one of the opportunities in your lifetime. Really! You are given (rather painfully) an opportunity to learn about you and the relationships in your life. You are given the opportunity to thoughtfully and intentionally redesign your life and love relationship. You will never be the same. And, do you really want to go back to what was??

What You Need

But, this just doesn't happen! It probably won't happen if you go it alone. You need input. You need support. You need new information. And, primarily, it is very important to have someone walk along with you, encourage you and show you new roads.

This is where the importance of having your own coach emerges. (Coaching usually takes place over the telephone - once a week for 30 minutes.)

Have you ever considered having your own coach? Consider that right now. Here are what a couple people say about their coaching experience:

Coaching starts with you and your situation. You work with the coach to find the strength and strategies you need to do exactly what is best for you and those closest to you.

Want some real live examples? Click here to read about coaching experiences with Kim, Bill, Jill, Jack and Stephanie.

Here's what coaching can do for you:

1. Break free from the affair much quicker. Unfortunately, when left to your own devices, you keep going over the same stuff time and time again. You swirl. Ever notice that? Same ole, same ole. You keep doing that which doesn't work.

2. Become smarter. Coaching gives you different ways of thinking about the affair and different strategies to use. You do not keep going over the same territory. There is movement.

3. You will like yourself better. You will be affirmed. Step number one for me is to let you know, through this time when you can doubt yourself, that you really are ok. This feels good!

4. You will have something to look forward to. Coaching becomes an oasis in which you are really heard, can talk about your vital concerns and begin to purposefully design your life and relationships.

5. You will be more confident and bold. You know that you have a fierce ally who will back you and be there for you.

6. You will rehearse exactly what you need to say and do. You will put into words exactly what you want to say. You will be prepared for you encounters with the significant other.

7. You will keep moving ahead. You won't backslide. Do you ever notice how easy it is to go back to what was familiar, even if you know it's not good for you? You don't have to do that.

Convenient Telecoaching

Telecoaching: Coaching takes place over the telephone. Some call it telecoaching. You and the coach schedule a half hour phone consultation per week over the phone. (Sometimes more, depending on your needs.)

It's simple. It's convenient. It's easy. It's confidential.

Working with a coach may help you move through the affair more quickly, avoid the mistakes others make on their own, boost your self-esteem, make you feel better and help you get the life and love relationship you truly want.

Some find it important to have contact during the week with email. A question or event might emerge whereby you want to share the event or want input soon. Or, some find email a powerful way to express self and communicate.

E-mails are responded to within 24 hours.

You may choose a coaching package with or without email correspondence.

Here's what you do..

Select a Coaching Package Below with either Dr. Huizenga or Ms. Jeryl Swantack.

Once you sign up, you will be contacted to set up your first coaching session.

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