But...We're Just Friends

Should he continue seeing her (now that he says
the affair is over) as a friend?

Maria expresses her pain and doubt about the affair ending. What does it mean when he says, "Now, we're just friends?"

Hi,

My name is Maria. 4 months ago I found out my husband cheated. I thought I would die I am still in a lot of pain. but my question is they have stayed friends. Has this ever happened and whose to say that this wont happen again? They both swear it wont. They both feel remorse for what they have done? They said they were both caught up in the passion but never thought for a minute that they were hurting someone else in the process. I have been married for eighteen years and have 4 children with him and am still very much in love with him. But I have a hard time dealing with him and her being friends. I'm suffering health ways because of this. They have destroyed my life. and I cant seem to get out of this state am in. Please help me.

My response:

Maria, if I could get a dime for every time I hear the, "we're just friends" schlick, I could buy those Ping golf clubs I've been looking at, PLUS accessories, PLUS a membership to the most exclusive country club in town.

Here's what "we're just friends" may mean: