Category Archives: Dr. Huizenga’s Blog Posts

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Signs of a Cheating Spouse: What to Watch For in Your Partner

Posted on January 13, 2012 by katiereck

Studies have recently shown a growth in the number of people engaged in extramarital affairs, both in men and women. About 80% of individuals have indulged in an affair at some point in their marriage. This may seem like a … Continue reading →

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How Do I Stop Obsessing About the Lies?

Posted on August 26, 2011 by huizenga

Someone asked about obsessive thinking in my webinar. The transcription of my answer is below: Man:  I keep having to deal with obsessive thinking about the affair. Lies make you go around and around in your head. What do I … Continue reading →

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To Stay or Go?

Posted on August 25, 2011 by huizenga

A person asked this question in my webinar: Shall I go or stay when my husband is still with the other woman and is planning to meet her again? Here’s my response: I’m not sure it’s an issue of “Should … Continue reading →

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Traditonal Self Help is Limited – Part 3

Posted on July 1, 2011 by huizenga

Here are some reponses from my readers to the list I posted previously about self help strategies (I listed 8) being limited: I think many people, me included, know that all that lovey-dovey crap isn’t going to help them through … Continue reading →

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Speaking your “Voice” to Your Spouse – Part II

Posted on June 28, 2011 by huizenga

Here are some more key points about using your personal power and speaking your voice to your spouse: You need not be loud and when you speak your voice. A quiet, calm, yet coming from within you voice, holds the … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Posted on June 24, 2011 by huizenga

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading →

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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Posted on June 21, 2011 by huizenga

Here are some other points to consder when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk:’ A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading →

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Making Distinctions Part 2 – a Key to Building Love

Posted on June 18, 2011 by huizenga

More key points on creating distinctions: You can communicate much more powerfully and elegantly when you see the distinctions. You no longer ramble in generalities but see the truth and speak the truth. You see the world in its finer … Continue reading →

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Speaking Your “Voice” to Your Spouse

Posted on June 15, 2011 by huizenga

A core element of a healthy marriage is your capacity to express your personal power. Note, I did not say you must develop it. Your personal power is there! It may be covered at this moment. You may not believe … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 1

Posted on June 12, 2011 by huizenga

I’ve been part of the self help and therapeutic endeavor since 1981. I’ve served on the state board for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. My private practice in Marriage and Family Therapy continued since that time and … Continue reading →

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