Internet Infidelity

Here are more questions and concerns from readers about internet cheating and infidelity:

why not be honest with your spouse- they might be interested in playing along, instead of finding someone new- why can you tell online people things you cannot tell anyone else?
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Facebook affair w/ old high school fling is exactly what my wife did. She was hooked before she knew what hit her. Her emotional affair eventually led to an physical affair even when I was aware of the emotional affair and attempting to save the marriage. We have been together 20 years, have 4 kids and both work full time. It has ruined our family. We are trying to reconcile but it’s been a month and I know she has stronger feelings for him than me (although I know it’s not real love). My question is: is there anything i can do to help her get over her feelings for the OP?
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I had an affair that started with an email from a first love in high school. 40 years later I met up with him and it was a pure hell experience. Wish I had seen that website that warns these kind of hookups are very unwise if married. We both were.
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My wife seems to have a compulsion for talking to guys while playing games. It always starts freindly then she ends up “falling in love”
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What is an appropriate way to keep up with old friends from high school and college without creating a risky situation? How can my spouse and I communicate about internet usage to create a climate of trust? How can we be accountable to each other in using the internet?
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It’s desperate, mean, hateful, and cruel. Not only is the cheating spouse trying to hook up with someone sexually or other but they are lying about everything and deceiving more people. Such insecure and childish behaviour angers me.
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Why do we turn a “blind eye” to the obvious? I saw the Skype icon on my wife’s computer and didn’t even bother to check out what Skype was.