Surviving Infidelity Series: Everyone has their own way of Coping with Infidelity
Following are two paragraphs which represent the feelings many experience and the actions many take regarding infidelity and self care. These two individuals believe they didn't cope in a healthy way upon discovering their partners affair, but it is important to know you are not alone when it comes to your pain and that there is no right or wrong way to cope upon infidelity discovery.
For the first individual, the pain of the affair lead to loss of appetite and even panic attacks:
Talking to my best friend; crying a lot; talking to my partner, getting his reassurance that it was me that he loved most and wanted to be with. I don't think I coped very well...I started having panic attacks and couldn't eat or sleep. So, I don't think my story will help anyone else.
The second individual relieved stress by excercising, but perhaps took it too far:
What I did I wouldn't recommend to anyone but it is how I coped and how I am continuing to cope with infidelity. I quit eating, I started drinking hot tea, stopped drinking coffee and started exercising like a crazy person. I cried alot and didn't make any demands or decisions-I knew I wasn't thinking straight and I didn't know what I wanted yet. I also went a little nuts trying to find out as much about the OP as I could. It has been a little over two months now and I am still not sure what is going to happen. He is still in our home but he hasn't ended it with her yet and I don't know if he will. I have given him to the end of January to make a decision-I was and am going crazy knowing he is still seeing her and talking with her on the phone and internet and I can't live with that. We'll see what happens-I have learned alot about myself and I am not so sure I want to stay with him anymore. I pray daily for strength and wisdom and to accept whatever happens whilte trying to move beyond the betrayal of infidelity.
