Coping with Infidelity: Things to Consider Upon Infidelity Discovery
How do you deal and cope with the pain of infidelity discovery?
The day of infidelity discovery is when you would feel the most pain. Finding out and confirming that your spouse has been cheating on you is one of the most painful, gut-wrenching experiences one could face in his or her lifetime.
And you think of ways that could make it easier to cope. Therapy? Medication? Anything!
Here are some thoughts on the matter:
1. Remember that there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking a little help to take some of the pain from infidelity discovery away. It’s a little difficult to keep reminding yourself of the fact that the pain and agony you are feeling will not always be there, but doing whatever it is that you think will help you alleviate some of that pain is very much encouraged.
2. When you are experiencing physical effects of your pain such as not eating or sleeping, lack of motivation, thoughts of self-harm or suicide, these are things that indicate that you should seek help on a professional level to get you through the difficult times of infidelity discovery.
3. Try to describe how bad you are feeling about the infidelity discovery on a more concrete manner, like a scale. Throughout the day, evaluate yourself on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the worst. Try to pinpoint when it is the worst and what you are doing, what you are thinking, and what you are feeling during this time. Are there things that these times have in common? What are they?
4. Have you noticed any changes in yourself personality-wise? Have people commented on you not being yourself lately? Have you become more withdrawn where you once were an outgoing person? Or is it the opposite where you’ve become more sociable when you used to be quiet? Are you having a hard time doing things you used to do or enjoying things that you used to enjoy?
Only medical doctors and psychiatrists are allowed to prescribe the kind of medications that can you help you to deal with the situation you’re in. you can have your medical doctor prescribe you these medications, but he or she will have to assess you first.
It may be a good idea to contact a psychiatrist first and make an appointment for him or her to evaluate you and your condition. They will have more experience and knowledge about handling these kinds of situations, expertise that your medical doctor may not have. If you are not quite sure about talking to a therapist about your infidelity discovery, try talking to someone else first like friends or family that you trust.
Medications for stress or trauma from infidelity discovery can be very tricky because different people respond in different ways, and what works for one person does not necessarily work for the other. So it is still best for you to get checked out by a professional because they would know best how to help you deal with infidelity discovery.