What is My Strategy for this Type of Affair?

Time To HealEffective pinpointed action is required in break free from the affair and influencing its direction. Reaction causes more harm than good.

Choose an affair specific strategy, implement slowly and observe. Experiment.

Examples of strategies for different types of affairs are given.

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3 Responses to What is My Strategy for this Type of Affair?

  1. diane says:

    I’m not sure which type of affair I am facing. At first it was an ‘I’m not in love with you”, then it seemed as if it was ‘my marriage made me do it’ which brought out 10 years of resentment making me wonder if it was a revenge affair. He has obviously met up with a mid life crisis and his ‘woman’ was there at the right time for him. She is now pregnant after just 3 months so he wants a divorce. He has always been a reliable, trustworthy, wonderful husband and I took fidelity for granted. I am lost and devistated, I just don’t know if it’s possible to get him back. I miss him so much and the pain is indescribable.

  2. Shawn says:

    Diane,
    I can relate-and I am sorry this is happening to both of us. I will never fully understand being so callously betrayed by my partner, whether or not we end up together. Best wishes.

  3. lyn says:

    Diane, Horrible situation.
    My situation is that me and my husband are average decent people who got along very well. We were having some issues that got blown out of proporation, we stopped communicating, and then he met someone at work. They get along well, so now he wants to leave me. He has created and maintained a cold environment at home by basically ignoring me day and night. He refused counseling and refused to stop seeing the other women. I remained calm and said we all make mistakes, and I will remain here to see this through. He can not understand why I won’t kick him out. It buys time, but it doesn’t seem to do any good since he likes her and they are in constant contact with text, e-mail and home visits, gift giving, dining out. She lives in the general area so he can see her whenever. I will continue to charge neutral (remain calm) as best I can, but I think I have to let go. Its been over 1.5 years and he remains stead fast in being very cold and distant. Don’t know what else to do. I can’t change him and I can’t seem to change much about myself other than get out more and get a life or more of a life. Terrible place to be in. HELP!

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