Category Archives: Rebuilding the Marriage or Relationship

The Distant Spouse: I Must be Romantic or Sexy

You, as the pulling away spouse, may be requested to be more “romantic” or “sexy.” The request may be direct: “I want you to be more romantic or sexy,” or you pick up from the need system of your spouse … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse: I Don’t want to Talk

Words can control, confuse and hurt. If you are the reluctant spouse, you may have a big problem with “talking.” In our culture a huge emphasis is placed upon “talking.” Those who are most verbose and “communicative” seem to dominate, … Continue reading

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Emotional Distance in a Marriage – Personal Needs and Frustration

You are lead to believe, are you not, that one of the primary purposes of marriage or a relationship of significant emotional involvement is to meet personal needs? Once married or in a significant relationship, your partner will meet your … Continue reading

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Marriage and Loss of Freedom

Here’s the 2nd Key to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other (It might be helpful to share this with your spouse, if s/he is willing to receive.) Key #2: You Need Not Lose your FREEDOM once the “Knot … Continue reading

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Help for the Emotionally Distant Spouse

Keys to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other… You really are NOT a Schmuck If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance and is unsure, I want you to feel better: no … Continue reading

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How Do I Stop Obsessing About the Lies?

Someone asked about obsessive thinking in my webinar. The transcription of my answer is below: Man:  I keep having to deal with obsessive thinking about the affair. Lies make you go around and around in your head. What do I … Continue reading

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To Stay or Go?

A person asked this question in my webinar: Shall I go or stay when my husband is still with the other woman and is planning to meet her again? Here’s my response: I’m not sure it’s an issue of “Should … Continue reading

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Can I Trust Again? Or…Too Much Damage?

This is part 2 of my transcript on trust with Nat. Her second question relates to the amount of damage and her capacity to trust and rebuild. Nat:  Part of that is, is there is a point when there’s been … Continue reading

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Trust Building: Once a Cheater always a Cheater?

I provide webinars for those who read “Break Free From the Affair,” and sometimes record the session. I want to share with you a transcript that answers a frequent question; once a cheater, always a cheater? and a closely related … Continue reading

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 3

Here are some responses from my readers to the list I posted previously about self help strategies (I listed 8) being limited: I think many people, me included, know that all that lovey-dovey crap isn’t going to help them through … Continue reading

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