He Tells Me He Loves me AND HER

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2:56 PM

Todd (to All):

I know you’ve answered and spoke before but today just literally 20 minutes ago after 2-3 weeks ok it hit me he may of asked her but she didn’t say no instead made her response ok. Never may of verbally said it I’ll never know but she was ok with being there and don’t know how to deal with that now. I was reading one of your emails sent and it just triggered it off in me about how the guy asked and says it’s my problem she couldn’t say no not his and don’t know how to deal with that today right now. The day was fine now I’m anxious and all torn up so any suggestions on what I can do knowing she said ok?

3:00 PM

Irina (PRIVATE):

I purchased the eBook but did not get any instructions how to download yet.

3:00 PM

Todd (to All):

yes

3:00 PM

Kathy (to All):

yes

3:01 PM

Irina (PRIVATE):

YES

3:01 PM

Tom Swan (to All):

yes

3:04 PM

Beth (to Organizers):

what is your opinion on limerence? how long does it last?

3:07 PM

Beth (PRIVATE):

yes

3:08 PM

Carla (to Presenter):

I have been married 38 years. Four years ago my husband began an emotional affair with a woman half his age (31 at the time) who had been a student of his. Three years ago he filed for divorce but then did not move the process forward. Two years ago he moved in with his affair partner at her house in Long Island, New York. One year ago (August 2016) he showed up at my door saying he wanted to work on our marriage and come home. However, since that time, he has gone back and forth every few weeks between our house and his affair partner’s house, saying he didn’t know what to do. Most recently, he showed up in mid-July saying he wanted to work on our marriage and stayed 12 weeks. He just returned to his affair partner, however, saying he wanted to move forward with our divorce. Today I tried to talk with him and he was angry at me, said he did not want to talk, and hung up the phone on me. I have tried to be patient because of our long-term marriage and thinking he is having a mid life crisis, but think it is time to give up. I want to move ahead with my life but am very sad that he does not seem to want our marriage. Any suggestions for how I can stop having feelings for him and get my life in order?

3:08 PM

Beth (PRIVATE):

yes

3:12 PM

Elena (to All):

I found out in June my husband had been having an affair since January. He told me he ended it and we went to marriage counseling and I thought things were getting better. I found out the begnning of October he had never cut off contact with her and had at least been in phone contact with her. He told me he had feelings for her and wasn’t sure what he wanted. Two weeks later he told me he needed to stay somewhere else and figure out what he wanted to do. She is moving here this weekend, she had been living about 45 minutes away, and he plans to move in with her. She left her husband for my husband about the time I found out he was still in contact with her. However he tells me nothing is final and he loves me and his feelings for me haven’t changed. He came to the house last night and hugged my crying saying he misses me. But he won’t change his mind about moving in with her this weekend. We have been married 21 years togehter for 24. We have 3 children. I feel his affair is a combo of 1 and 4. I don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t understand how he says he loves me and misses me but is willing to lose me to be with her and thinks hes so in love with her.

3:22 PM

Elena (to All):

yes

3:29 PM

Irina (PRIVATE):

Hearing this brings back memories – very PTSD type suff

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