The most common problem that people face once they find out that their spouse has cheated on them is deciding whether or not they are capable of forgiving their spouse and, if they do, if they are able to trust after infidelity.
The question people usually ask is if they’d be able to completely forget about their husband or wife’s affair, and if it’s possible for them to not doubt, or feel threatened or insecure whenever their spouse is away.
Restoring trust after infidelity is never a simple issue, and it won’t just go away with time without being dealt with.
The easiest way to start doing this is to intentionally make the decision to change the way you see your life, what you think you need to happen, and what you want to happen.
Reflect on what it would mean for you to trust after infidelity, and what you need from your partner for you to be able to do that. Tell your partner these things and if you decide that you want to stay in the marriage and work on your problems, then you both have to make a conscious effort to rebuild your relationship and the trust you lost.
What type of measures do you need to take to help you regain trust after infidelity? And what issues does your partner have with you that you need to address as well? Begin working on these things together and focus on trying to provide whatever it is that the other needs from you. But make sure that you don’t ignore the things that are presently happening in your relationship either.
Most people going through an infidelity crisis focus only on the actual cheating, lying and betrayal, the pain and heartache that they are going through, that they tend to forget think about what it is that they really want to happen in their life and their relationship.
No, it won’t be easy to just ignore the pain, but it’s one of the most important steps you need to take if you want to restore your relationship and rebuild your marriage and trust after infidelity.
Don’t ignore what is going on in your life as well as your partner’s. Don’t ignore or forget the problems that already exist in your marriage. Think of what it is that you need for yourself and define a limit on the things you will and will not put up with. Put your energies into getting what you want but make sure that you let your partner know what your limits are. And when you define these limits, do your best to stand by them and be true to them.
No one else is going to stand up for yourself but you. So rather than being stuck in doubt and mistrust, strengthen yourself and focus on what you want for yourself and what you need to be able to trust after infidelity.