What can you do to help develop and build trust in your marriage?
There are many ways that you can build trust in your relationship. Here are just a few simple tips you can do:
1. Be consistent in your actions, words, and behavior towards your partner. The trust in your relationship deepens as you and your partner get to know each other better, and your partner’s ability to anticipate or expect how you will act or react to certain things will be one of the things that he or she will come to depend on.
2. Let your partner know of any changes that you are going through. Making changes in your personal life out of the blue and without your partner’s knowledge is usually seen as something to be suspicious of. Your partner may tend to doubt why those changes are happening without his or her knowledge.
3. Make sure that your actions are saying the same message as your words. Your partner will always know when you are just pretending to be interested in something and when you really are. And he or she will always be able to read what you really want from your actions even if your words are saying different.
4. Do not doubt your partner’s capacity to handle whatever issues you may have about him or her, or your relationship. Doubt and skepticism does not build trust. Keeping these issues from your partner and pretending that they don’t bother you will only put a strain in your relationship and your goal of avoiding conflict will most likely backfire.
5. Be very cautious about keeping secrets from your partner. Secrets have a way of destroying trust, and most of the time, it’s the little ones that you think won’t really matter that does it. So if you are thinking of keeping something from your partner, make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons and that no one gets hurt in the process, especially your partner.
6. Instead of focusing only on what your partner needs from you, let your partner know the things you need from him or her. There is nothing wrong with asking your partner to provide your needs, so don’t be shy or embarrassed to do so. Build trust by entrusting your needs to your partner. Show him or her that you know that he or she is capable of providing your needs.
7. Reflect on yourself – who you are, what is important to you as an individual and as someone who is a part of a couple, what are your beliefs, what values are important to you – everything, and let your partner know the things you discover about yourself.
8. Learn to say no. Always saying yes to other people and not setting aside time to do the things you want to do will likely leave you feeling unappreciated. So make sure that if someone asks you to something, even if it is your partner, and you don’t want to do it, just say no.
9. Charge neutral. Charging neutral means that you put your feelings and emotions in your control. You don’t react or burst in the slightest provocation. You keep your cool. Maintain the contact you have with your partner and speak to him or her directly and truthfully. This will build trust in your partner.
10. Do not be afraid to confront every single aspect of your relationship, especially the issues, trials, problems and concerns that you will have to face eventually. Avoiding conflict, arguments or fights can sometimes lead to resentment, so with issues where you think you really need to talk about it, don’t be afraid to confront them because getting through them with your partner will only make you stronger.
What do you think of these tips? Do you have any other tips you want to share with us. Don’t hesitate to leave comments about other ways one can strengthen or build trust in a relationship.