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Infidelity Discovered? 10 Ways to Calm Your Powerful Feelings
by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach
When you find out about the affair, the first few hours, days and weeks can be emotionally wrenching to say the least. Or, if someone you deeply care about begins "pulling away" you may also experience intense feelings. Read through this list and pick out a couple things you can do to help yourself during these times.
1. Walk. Run, if you are fit enough to run. Work out. Get the blood flowing. Physical exercise drains off the adrenaline and physically you feel better. You also think better of yourself because you are caring for you.
2. Talk. If you typically handle problems by talking them out, find someone who will listen as you pour out your heart. Give them explicit instructions: "I need to talk, vent, cry, rage, and question. Just look me in the eye, nod your head and listen."
3. Write. Get a kitchen timer. Set it for 5 minutes. Spend that time writing...anything, everything that comes to your mind. Don't censor. When the bell goes off say to yourself, "OK, there it is. Now I need to get on to other things. I will come back later and write more." Put the writing in a safe place or destroy it.
4. Find a safe place and spend some time there. Do you have a favorite lake, wooded area, park, room, chair where you feel safe and can "get away." Intentionally spend some time there.
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This article is part of a series of articles written by Dr. Huizenga. He responds in practical and heart-felt ways to pressing issues such as:
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46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair
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Extramarital Affair: Their Sex is not "Always Hot"
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Day of Discovery: I'm a Mess! Do I Need Meds?
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Infidelity: Why the Need to Know is so Strong
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Signs of Infidelity: My Marriage Made Me Do it
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Emotional Infidelity: A KEY Tactic to Save the Marriage
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Sexually Addicted? Ten Important Questions to Ask
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Infidelity Recovery: What is it with Men?
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