Banishing Him To the Basement Works
You will learn:
- How LaKeitha makes startling self-discoveries that touch on powerful buried memories and feelings. These feelings and insight hold promise for the future of LaKeitha and perhaps the marriage.
Here’s a coaching summary by Dr. Huizenga of a taped Laser Coaching Session with Lakeitha:
LaKeitha and her husband form a young marriage with two children under two.
Lakeitha knows of her husbands affair which he doesn’t hide. He says he want to stop seeing the OP but “can’t help himself.” As well, he states that he doesn’t want to be part of the marriage if he “can’t stop.”
Lakeitha suggests he move to the basement. He agrees.
This banishment sets off a “torrent of conversation.” Lakeitha begins to identify what she truly wants in a family. She concludes that they are “blankies” to each other but she will NOT tolerate lying and cheating.
Lakeitha makes some startling self-discoveries in the coaching session that touch on powerful buried memories and feelings. These feelings and insight hold promise for the future of LaKeitha and perhaps the marriage.
Dr. Huizenga ‘s Review:
1. LaKeitha, like many on the day of discovery, uses the frontal assault of pleading, anger, reactivity, and placating in a attempt to win him back and have him end the affair. Doesn’t work.
At one point she decides to “give him his space.” They discuss calmly the situation and agree on a separation. With money being a factor he moves to the basement.
This is difficult since both realize how important the touching and intimacy is to each other. It begins a consistent series of more meaningful conversations.
Lakeitha was able to call upon her personal power to take a firm stand. He knew it she meant, “I
will NOT tolerate lying and cheating.” And, she was able to say this without screaming, crying and begging. She truly “charged neutral,” an important skill I talk about in Break Free From the Affair.
2. Such a positive and powerful confrontation and banishment to the basement shook loose the impasse in the relationship. A new movement was created.
More conversations took place. There seemed to be new energy. The flow of the relationship changed.
But, what was it changing to? LaKeitha did not know.
For the remainder of the review and to order the audio series, read below:
19 Live Infidelity Coaching Sessions
with Dr. Huizenga – The Infidelity coach
You will:
- shift your focus away from the pain
- see the issues rather than feel the issues
- feel good about your progress and strength
- clear the cobwebs, get the clear picture
- build your skills for your next intensee encounter
- learn how to act with power and integrity not react out of neediness and weakness
You will receive:
- 19 live coaching interviews 15-20 minutes long with a variety of people coping with different kinds of extramarital affairs. (Over 5 hours of listening.)
- A workbook containing:
- an introduction to each situation by either Dr. Huizenga or the coachee
- an extensive summary and comments by Dr. Huizenga about the session
- dozens of comments from others, like you, who have listened the tape, offering their input, words of wisdom or personal experience.
- The ability to listen to the tapes online.
- The ability to download the tapes onto CD or MP3 format.
