Infidelity Shifts and Turning Points Discussed in this Live Coaching Tape

A Turning Point Changes Your World

In Dr. Huizenga’s coaching interview with Jackeye you will learn:

  • how Jackye reached a turning point and began creating her future – with or without him

Here’s a summary of Jackye’s situation:

Never suspecting and caught totally off guard, Jackye learns of his infidelity – and other secrets.

After weeks of pain, something clicks and Jackye makes a huge internal shift.

She describes the triggers that sets her off and finds powerful ways to counteract them and move into her future with less fear and anger.

Jackye sets up a 2-year program based on self-care, self-advancement, model parenting and a relationship built on honesty and trust.

Dr. Huizenga’s review of the Laser Coaching Session:

1. It is often helpful to allow or give yourself a “holding period” or “time-out.” You often need time to adjust, to think, to stand back and evaluate your circumstances.

You need not rush to make decisions.

Friends and family often push you to decide. They, however, have a vested interest and offer their advice with a desire for you to feel as little pain and agony as possible.

As well, a knee-jerk decision may prove to be disastrous. And, once it’s made, there is often no turning back.

Jackye was wisely able to do just that. She shifted her focus away from him and what he was or was not doing, away from the memories and the pain of those memories.

She entertained the questions: What is best for me? What do I want my future to look like? What do I want for my children? What would be the best possible way for my family and myself to move gracefully and productively through this trauma?

She eventually settled upon a 2-year plan, well thought out, whereby at the end of two years she would be able financially and emotionally to remove herself from the marriage if need be.

Her 2-year plan generated hope and a new feeling of empowerment.

2. Now, how was she able to do that? That process is often easier said than done. Intentions may be great, but follow through leaves something to be desired.

My experience tells me there usually is a turning point.

There comes a time when an internal shift or decision is made and the flow of thinking and the actions change dramatically.

Agony may exist to that point. But, the agony is knowingly or unknowing addressed and examined. It may be a painful period, but a necessary and productive time for thinking and feeling to align differently.

When Jackye reached that turning point she began to realize there was nothing basically wrong with her. She began to identify and appreciate her strengths and was formulating ways to use them.

She let go of her anger and hurt. They dissipated. They lost their power.

Jackye moved from seeing herself as a victim and subject to the influence of his behaviors to a person who no longer needed to react to him but could, through her own power, begin to design her future – with or without him. (It is best to think first of a future without him.)

3. Jackye still remained susceptible to various triggers that had the propensity to ignite negative feelings and thoughts. Of course, this is a challenge for all of us.

When the triggers began to set off the negative feelings and thoughts, Jackye was able to consciously and intentionally initiate interventions that changed the flow from negative to positive.

She experimented with self talk and found the exact phrase that would modify her thinking and therefore feeling. She also found that listening to particular music had a quick and effective way of altering her internal life.

Jackye was able to change the flow and direction of her life. How wonderful!

4. A strong firm foundation for one’s life is crucial, especially when coping with a crisis such as infidelity. A basis for decisions, a basis for thinking well of one’s self, a basis for solving problems and a basis for other relationships are important.

From the tape you will hear Jackye developing her foundation.

Her friends were not very understanding of her circumstances. Like most uninformed but well intentioned friends, they were easy to give advice. Most of the time, Jackye was moving in a different direction.

She was able to craft a position and convey that position to her friends in a way that Jackye could feel good about.

Jackye was able to set firm sexual boundaries with her husband. She let him know what kind of relationship with him she would accept and desire. Again, she planted her feet and said, “Here I stand. Like it or not!”

And lastly, Jackye though this change process was able to see herself as a creator rather than a victim. She called upon her strengths, identified those strengths and took action that would create for her the best possible life under her circumstances.

Take advantage of these 19 powerful interviews:

19 Live Infidelity Coaching Sessions
with Dr. Huizenga – The Infidelity coach

You will:

  • shift your focus away from the pain
  • see the issues rather than feel the issues
  • feel good about your progress and strength
  • clear the cobwebs, get the clear picture
  • build your skills for your next intense encounter
  • learn how to act with power and integrity not react out of neediness and weakness

You will receive:

  1. 19 live coaching interviews 15-20 minutes long with a variety of people coping with different kinds of extramarital affairs. (Over 5 hours of listening.)
  2. A workbook containing:
    1. an introduction to each situation by either Dr. Huizenga or the coachee
    2. an extensive summary and comments by Dr. Huizenga about the session
    3. dozens of comments from others, like you, who have listened the tape, offering their input, words of wisdom or personal experience.
  3. The ability to listen to the tapes online.
  4. The ability to download the tapes onto CD or MP3 format.

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