Emotional Infidelity: Falling in and out of “Love”
by Dr. Robert Huizenga – The Infidelity Coach
Hey, we’re just friends!
Back off is the message!
It starts out innocently enough. They may work together. Maybe neighbors. Maybe they serve on a civic or church committee together. Perhaps the children are involved in the same athletic/music event.
They meet. They talk. They Talk…and talk…and talk. More time together. More talk.
But, we’re just friends.
But, to you, it doesn’t FEEL like just friends.
They have an “emotional connection” that is obvious to you and others.
They see nothing wrong with it. Why is everyone so upset? We just talk. No sex. No touching. Nothing.
With this relational stalemate, several problems emerge:
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How in the world will my partner and I restore the trust back into our relationship?I recommend another resource to help you cope with infidelity. One of my online colleagues, Dr. Frank Gunzburg, offers a wealth of information that compliments Break Free From the Affair.
Dr. Gunzburg has done an amazing job of breaking down all
the steps that both the injured, the cheater and then the
couple need to go through if they want to heal their relationship.
He’s got 3 specific phases that he encourages his readers to go through and you can start the program even if your spouse isn’t willing.
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