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Recovering From Infidelity: When Can I Feel Normal Again?

Although normalcy truly is a relative and subjective concept, there have been plenty of clients who have asked this question after they discover that their partners have been in extramarital affairs. And truth be told, there is no exact time-frame … Continue reading

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Infidelity Reasons: Knowing Why He/She Cheated

Is it Important to Know the Infidelity Reasons and Why My Partner Cheated? A lot of the people have asked this question, and the answer is always the same: Yes. Why? Because knowing the infidelity reasons or factors behind one’s … Continue reading

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 3

Here are some responses from my readers to the list I posted previously about self help strategies (I listed 8) being limited: I think many people, me included, know that all that lovey-dovey crap isn’t going to help them through … Continue reading

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Speaking your “Voice” to Your Spouse – Part 2

Here are some more key points about using your personal power and speaking your voice to your spouse: You need not be loud and when you speak your voice. A quiet, calm, yet coming from within you voice, holds the … Continue reading

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading

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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Here are some other points to consider when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk”: A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading

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Rebuilding Your Marriage: 8 Key Points on Creating Distinctions

From time to time, throughout my material, you will hear me refer to the process of making distinctions. Making distinctions is the process of discovering deeper and deeper meaning and understanding in a concept. Take “love,” for example. What is … Continue reading

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Speaking Your “Voice” to Your Spouse

A core element of a healthy marriage is your capacity to express your personal power. Note, I did not say you must develop it. Your personal power is there! It may be covered at this moment. You may not believe … Continue reading

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Making Shifts Help Build A Love You Can Trust

Shifts happen. An awareness of your personal shifts and the capacity to guide and create shifts are a core element of building a love you can trust. Here are Key Points on shifts: A shift is any movement or change … Continue reading

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A Key Healing Skill To Use In A Marital Crisis

In therapy and change theory an overarching process to help in the healing is technically called meta cognition. Meta-cognition is your capacity to enable a part of you to stand back and evaluate what you (or other parts of you) … Continue reading

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