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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading

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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Here are some other points to consider when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk”: A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading

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Rebuilding Your Marriage: 8 Key Points on Creating Distinctions

From time to time, throughout my material, you will hear me refer to the process of making distinctions. Making distinctions is the process of discovering deeper and deeper meaning and understanding in a concept. Take “love,” for example. What is … Continue reading

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Speaking Your “Voice” to Your Spouse

A core element of a healthy marriage is your capacity to express your personal power. Note, I did not say you must develop it. Your personal power is there! It may be covered at this moment. You may not believe … Continue reading

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Making Shifts Help Build A Love You Can Trust

Shifts happen. An awareness of your personal shifts and the capacity to guide and create shifts are a core element of building a love you can trust. Here are Key Points on shifts: A shift is any movement or change … Continue reading

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A Key Healing Skill To Use In A Marital Crisis

In therapy and change theory an overarching process to help in the healing is technically called meta cognition. Meta-cognition is your capacity to enable a part of you to stand back and evaluate what you (or other parts of you) … Continue reading

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11 Things You Are Able To Do In A Healthy Marriage

Following are eleven characteristics of a healthy relationship as it moves through marital crisis. In a healthy marriage, you will be able to: 1. Stand back and see the larger picture 2. View your crisis from different perspectives 3. Have … Continue reading

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I Want You To Develop A Lasting Emotional Connection

I want to help you experience that lasting emotional connection and intimacy in your marriage or relationship of emotional investment that brings powerful moments of personal and mutual satisfaction and joy without losing your personal freedom and personal power. I … Continue reading

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Building a Love You Can Trust: 3 Key Points about Distinctions

I emphasize the power of making distinctions as you build a love you can trust. Making distinctions is the process of understanding, of peeling back the layers of the onion to see what’s beneath. Love is not an end process. … Continue reading

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Does our Culture Promote Infidelity?

Does our culture provide opportunities for extramarital affairs to begin? Continue reading

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