In the first part of this series about sexual addiction and infidelity, we discussed briefly how they affect each other and listed down three of the most common facts revolved around them.
On this second part, we will point out three more need-to-know facts and talk about what it could be like for someone who has sexual addiction to live a life without the constant need to fulfill sexual gratification and what initial steps he or she can take to achieve that.
Here are those three:
1. Although a person with sexual addiction believes that he or she needs to have sex and fulfill his or her sexual needs constantly, this person still lives in fear. He or she is afraid of being found out, especially by his or her significant other, and does not want to be discovered. He or she does not want to be seen as a liar or a cheat because he or she does not want to lose the respect that people have for him or her. And most of all, this person does not want to lose his or her relationship with others – his family, his friends and even his colleagues.
2. This person, because of his or her fear, will be in a constant cycle of creating promises and failing to keep them, especially when it comes to sexual activities. Whether it is made to his or her significant partner or only to himself, he or she promises to stop engaging in his or her sexual addiction, especially outside of the relationship whenever this guilt or fear strikes him or her. But it usually ends as soon as the need for sexual gratification emerges once more.
3. And finally, to avoid being caught in engaging in infidelity and other sexual activities, he or she will have a strong tendency to lie and hide behind his or her addiction. Rationalizing and making excuses for his or her actions and behaviors becomes very common, and most of the time, he or she actually believes that there is nothing wrong.
People with sexual addiction don’t know any different, and it is your job to convince them that there is a better way of handling relationships. If you know someone who fits the description of a sexually addicted person, be someone that he or she can lean on. Encourage him or her to get some help by maybe joining a support group or talking to a therapist who can get to the bottom of his or her sexual addiction.