Developing trust in relationships isn’t as hard as people think. One simple way of doing this is by making sure that you mean the things you are saying.
In developing trust, make sure that when you talk to your partner the things you are saying conveys the same message as your actions. Saying one thing and meaning or doing another always brings in doubt and confusion into the relationship, which are things that can shake up the trust you and your partner have built and will put a pause on further developing trust in your relationship..
A simple example of putting a dent on developing trust in your relationship is when you and your partner go out on a date night. There are times when going out is the last thing you want to do and date night starts to feel like an obligation. You say you want to go, but then you look bored or annoyed and your movements are sluggish like you have to force yourself to get up. It may be just a little thing, but it still affects your partner’s trust in you.
So in a situation like this, what will your partner believe – your words or your actions? It’s difficult for your partner to have to gauge what it is that you really want to do, and a lot of times, situations like this lead to fights and the mixed messages you send do nothing in helping you in developing trust in your marriage.
So, next time, instead of pretending to want to do something that you really don’t want to do, just say that you don’t want to do it. Tell your partner that you know how important your date nights are and that you appreciate what it does for your relationship, but that you don’t really want to go out. Suggest an alternate plan, like staying in and watching a movie. This way, your partner will know what you are feeling and he or she wouldn’t feel like you’re forced into doing it. There wouldn’t be any doubts or confusion and you will be developing trust in each other because he or she will be aware of what you are feeling.