Finding Strength in the Midst of Infidelity and Tragedy

Following is a woman’s heartbreaking story of her experience with infidelity. Learn how she coped through a tragic turn of events and came out a stronger person in the end, largely because of her love for her children.

Hello, I relate so much to the crying, not eating, not being able to work. It was so hard. He walked out 1 week before Christmas. My friends and family helped so much. I thought, “What did I do wrong?” I thought I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough. But it dawned on me one day as I looked in the mirror. I looked at what I was letting him do to me, the weight I lost, the kids trying to cheer me up. It was because of my kids…I didn’t want them to see me like that anymore. I took back my life. They asked questions and I told them the truth about their dad’s other woman. I fought for my life and my children not to give up. Then, it got harder. Their dad (my husband) died in a car accident on Father’s Day. My youngest daughter was there spending the day with her dad for Father’s day. Thank God she wasn’t in the car. Through him leaving and his death, I’m a very strong woman. It has shown my children that you can make it through anything, as long as you have a support system, and for me that was my children.

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8 Responses to Finding Strength in the Midst of Infidelity and Tragedy

  1. Marsha says:

    Dear Bob,

    I truly believe you to be a gift sent from heaven. You truly want to help people from the depth of your heart. There is so much infidelity in this world and so many hurting people. My heart goes out to all who are hurting.

  2. Pallu says:

    What is wrong in this world today. Was I blind in the past. Is it just because this has hpepaned to me, that I see it all the time, or has the world gone crazy? I was married for 20 years, and never, ever would I have thought this would happen to me. Everyone would tell me how lucky I am to have such a wonderful and thoughtful husband. He did this 2 yrs ago and all I wanted was to get things back to normal. I was willing to forgive and try to forget. He has never admitted anything, and its all there. The viagra, the condoms, the correspondence with the other person, the violence the lies,etc. I think about this everyday, how the hell do you forgive when they wont even talk about it. Ive done well, as I did not sit back and stop living, but Ive have been waiting in my mind and heart for an answer and nothing. How do I get this out of my mind completley. Will another relationship help me forget someone that I loved and care about so deeply? I think he still loves me, as he does not communicate with our daughters either. And I know he loves them. Thats Life. That is my thought. Just keep living. Dont think I can go back, but I would like to resolve it and get my children back with thier dad, before its too late. I know its been hard on them. I dont think about it as forgiveness, but instead acceptance.

    • Sue says:

      I’m in a similar situation in which H won’t admit it. I’m giving him time while I live a separate life but I am making plans to end it permanently. He has up until the day I move across the country to come clean and decide to work on this properly, after that it’s a no go.
      I won’t live as a puppet in someone else’s false reality that they have created for me, to benefit their own self-centered motives. It’s sad they he doesn’t have the courage and character to take responsibility. His greatest fear is abandonment and he makes comments about things we will be doing 10 years from now. All I can think is ‘are you crazy, I’m not going to be living like this another year, let alone 10’. His lies are going to get him the thing he is trying to avoid by lying, abandonment.

  3. Rick says:

    I have loved in this life and lost most except family. I grew up hearing of my parents infidelity. Girl friends always leaving didn’t have many. My first fiancee cheated on me with many of my friends. My wife that I am still married too decided to be an escort because it was fun. I don’t know if my youngest boy is mine. I am his father anyway no matter what. I went back to school because my body could no longer handle the hard labor of heavy lifting and outside work. My was taking similiar classes and copied my work getting me expelled and her a slap on the wrist. Was not able to obtain my masters degree in order to get my license. But I still love her or maybe it is just easier to stay. I don’t know how to forgive her. It’s like she blames me.

  4. Jc says:

    Thank you for sharing the story. I can certainly relate to the story the infidelity, emotional abuse, depression, losing weight, blaming myself for his leaving and having an affair, he does anyway – his quote “she ( the other person) is just a symptom of our lousy marriage”, Because of my kids I went to a therapist, took depression medication, to get myself together. But now my kids and I are happier than ever while he is still the same misera or a**h***. I believe in karma, and I believe this husband got what he deserved, same with my husband’s brother who cheated on his wife with many women then ended up living alone with no relation to his children and had a stroke, now can’t work and no girl friend either. Karma may not happen right away but it will one day. For all the broken hearts out there hang in there, you are better off without this loser in your life. Get yourself together, karma will get him or her one day.

    • Glen says:

      I too have been betrayed by my wife of many years together I know she is having an affair it is really hard to forgive her but she does not know that I know she is I love her but it really hurts I am going to try to stick it out with her but everybody has their dignity

  5. Jason says:

    Great story of a lying cheater getting exactly what was coming to them in the end. I too am a believer in Karma and hope to see it in action.

  6. Roy says:

    My wife of 19 years did the same thing she found someone at work 19 years her junior. I’ve got my daughter of 14 and son of 9 that in actual truth are supporting me, it’s been 6 mon now. She trumped up some charges of marriage violence I was banned by the law to approach my home and her. She didn’t want to look after the kids and abandoned them to me so that she could go and live with her toy boy. Her charges got thrown out of court and I was innocented. She can no longer play her power trip now. I’m free to go home and have already the kids. She’s gone, unfortunately but I have my self respect.

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