Restoring trust after infidelity is always one of the main issues or trials that couples have to go through whenever infidelity enters a relationship.
People always ask the same thing when this happens to them and their relationship: if there is any way that they will be able to love and trust their partners the same way after infidelity, and will there ever be a time when they don’t become paranoid or suspicious about where their partners are going and what they’re doing.
One of the hardest things to do in the relationship after infidelity is rebuilding trust, and most of the time, you don’t even know where and how to begin doing this because you are too focused on the pain and betrayal you are feeling.
Do you think you will be able to forgive your partner and begin to trust him or her again? Do you need your partner to do anything for you to be able to forgive him or her, and do you he or she will be capable of doing it? Talk to your partner about these things, and in the event that you decide that you want to stay with him or her after infidelity, both of you have to agree to work and make an effort in rebuilding the lost trust in your marriage.
It’s easier for people to focus on the hurt and pain of cheated on especially during the time of discovering it, but you should make yourself get past the pain no matter how hard it is. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t address those issues anymore, but you also have to give attention to your current reality and be aware of the things that are going on in your life right now.
Although it may seem impossible to do, you still have to do it and here’s why: Your partner could be doing it all over again and you’re too focused on your depression after infidelity to notice it. If this happens, will you be able to handle another wave of pain and betrayal? Will you be able to go through it all over again? And will you be able to forgive your partner, and yourself, one more time?
It’s important that you decide the things that you want for yourself apart from your partner, as well as the things that you want from your relationship, especially after infidelity. Draw limitations as to what you will be able to handle and what you will not regarding your relationship and set these boundaries with your partner.
It’s time that you take matters into your own hands and not let your partner pull you back and forth with the indecisions about his or her life. Decide for yourself what you want after infidelity and stick to your decisions.