Are there things we can do to make sure that we are moving forward after our partner’s infidelity? What are these things?
Going through infidelity is difficult for everyone, no matter the situation, and moving forward from a situation like this take a lot of effort from both parties. Whether it happens for the first time or the second or the third, it never gets easy. All the time you just feel enveloped by pain and betrayal and torment, and you start to wonder when it will stop and when the moving forward will start, and how other people got through it.
Well, moving forward usually when you finally get an answer to that one question you’ve been asking yourself over and over. The question that you’ve been holding inside, that’s been keeping you from moving forward.
The thing is, though, that this question isn’t necessarily the same for everyone. People experience similar situations differently and therefore have different reactions to things. It may even take some time for you to figure out what the question is in the first place. The important thing is for you to keep moving forward. Make goals for your future, both immediate and distant — a future that is focused on yourself and the things you need and want to happen in your life, and a future that is not revolved around your partner. Don’t avoid or ignore your feelings and thoughts about your situation. Doing that will only lead to more pain and anger. Acknowledge your feelings but do not focus on them. Instead, focus on yourself and what things you can do to make yourself feel better and ensure moving forward.
Remember that even if everything seems to be falling apart right now and it seems that it won’t get better, things always have a way of fixing themselves and everything eventually gets better – and the best part is, that question that you’ve been holding on to will get answered. And then, moving forward will be a breeze.