22 Qualities That Create Emotional Connection in a Marriage

Following is a list of qualities that create an emotional connection in a marriage or partnership:

1. I want to enjoy receiving pleasure from my spouse and easily communicate desires.

2. I want to accept and respect a “no” from my partner.

3. I want to communicate my personal needs around sex and have them understood.

4. I want to have sex be a choice, not a compulsion.

5. I want to feel great after an erotic time together.

6. I want to trust my partner more than anyone else.

7. I want to keep my word to my partner.

8. I want to be careful in what I promise and not set my partner up for disappointment.

9. I want to respect my partner’s friendship with attractive people.

10. I want to receive all the affection and touch I want from my partner.

11. I want to experience moments of tenderness, kindness and gentleness in our marriage.

12. I want to laugh at my humanness.

13. I want to lovingly tease my spouse.

14. I want to create time to be with children and close friends.

15. I want to have us surround ourselves with friends and family.

16. I want to have this marriage contribute to the lives of those around us.

17. I want to have my partner know me intimately.

18. I want to have this marriage be a place where we constantly grow, learn and evolve.

19. I want to face change and the unknown with my partner.

20. I want to get what I need and more within this relationship.

21. I want to be overwhelmed with gratitude and love and express it.

22. I want to give and receive great gifts from each other.

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3 Responses to 22 Qualities That Create Emotional Connection in a Marriage

  1. Martin desaussure says:

    I want to restore trust and fidelity in my marriage. How to reconnect with my estranged spouse.

  2. Anonymous says:

    How does wanting all of these things wanting all of these things bring closer connection? if I WANT to feel great after an erotic encounter but actually feel like crap, how does the wanting of it supersede the actuality to create a closer connection? Ditto for all of the other qualities on the list. In fact if you want it but don’t get it the emotional connection or disconnection is even worse than if you didn’t even want it.

  3. Nomorechump says:

    I wanted all these things but my partner just wanted to find people on Craigslist and backpage. Moving on cause I left

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