Sign of an Affair: What it Means to “Fall Out of Love”
Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach
One sign of an affair that you will hear about a lot when it comes to infidelity is “I’ve fallen out of love with you.” But what does this actually mean?
In most cases, this usually means that your partner no longer feels attracted to you in a sexual way, and has found someone else who he or she is attracted to, at least for now.
Infidelity comes in many forms, and expect that each form will have a different sign of an affair.
There are different kinds of affairs – seven – that I have come up with through my work as a therapist for the past two decades. The signs you will be able to observe are going to vary for each kind. Learn about these signs and help yourself get past infidelity fast.
One of the 7 different kinds of affairs is the “I fell out of love…and just love being in love.” Here are some things you need to know that will be helpful when you observe this sign of an affair from your partner.
1. Get ready for the worst. If you think the initial shock of finding out about your partner’s infidelity is bad, then know that having to actually live through it will be worse and you should prepare yourself for this.
2. It will be difficult for you to deal with this situation because you will be witnessing first-hand how your partner is focusing his or her all on this other relationship without any regard to how it makes you feel.
3. Your partner may attempt to tell you about his relationship with the other person. This sign of an affair could be his way of intensifying the drama that already exists in the situation because he finds the drama exciting. Try not to react when this happens, and calmly ask him to never talk to you about the other person or the other relationship.
4. One sign of affair is an exchange of juvenile behavior between your partner and the other person. Pet names, love letters and inside jokes are common things that are to be expected with this kind of affair.
5. Expect to hear the phrase “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore” quite often. This is your partner way of keeping you in the relationship – by expressing his reluctance in ending your relationship indirectly.
6. Your partner may express remorse for falling in love with someone else, but he doesn’t really do anything about it and just lets his feelings lead the way he lives his life.
7. It should come as a surprise to hear that his other relationship has suddenly ended. These relationships don’t usually, and tend to end as abruptly as they begin.
