Eradicate your Pain and Confusion with a Plan of Action that WILL Get Your Cheating Spouse's Attention

 Dr. Huizenga here,

In the Bronze Package you are given a road map - a step by step process that helps you take action - action that will get his/her attention, action that stands the best chance of stopping the affair and action that will lead to life-giving resolution.

I don't want you wandering and wondering, blowing around like a leaf in the wind.

You don't need that, your children don't need that, your friends don't need that and believe it or not, your cheating spouse doesn't need that.

You can't be a basket case and expect to have a positive impact on your spouse, your children or even you, for that matter.

From Basket Case to Being a Tiger with a Targeted Plan

The Bronze Package gets you on the track of reclaiming your confidence, self-esteem, center, strength, personal power, or whatever name you want to give it.

Your confidence takes a severe hit with infidelity.

And, when your confidence takes a severe hit, you return to your default mode to reclaim it.

That, often is an ugly picture, since your default mode is a return to those ways of dealing with low self-esteem that never really worked.

Out of your desperation and neediness you return to the old patterns.

If clobbered before in your life and you withdrew, appeased or basically wimped out, you will do that now.

If clobbered before in your life and you attacked, became aggressive, that, most likely, is what you do now.

Doesn't work.

It doesn't work in the sense that your spouse or partner knows this part of you very well and is not impressed. It does not get his/her attention in any positive manner. Games are played and s/he continues to be spell-bound by the affair.

No More Suffering, Humiliation and Embarrassment

My first concern is to rebuild the part of YOU that is suffering, feels broken, humiliated and embarrassed.

There are reasons for the intense suffering you experience now and once you understand those reasons and reorient your thinking, your self-esteem and confidence will skyrocket - often faster than you dream now.

And, then, others, watch out!

And you say, Wonderful! But..... how in the heck can that happen when the agony I feel now is close to unbearable?

Here's Where the Pain Comes From: The Garbage
You are Subtly Taught About Infidelity

My first concern is to rebuild the part of YOU that is suffering, feels broken, humiliated and embarrassed.

There are reasons for the intense suffering you experience now and once you understand those reasons and reorient your thinking, your self-esteem and confidence will skyrocket - often faster than you dream now.

And, then, others, watch out!

And you say, Wonderful! But..... how in the heck can that happen when the agony I feel now is close to unbearable?

• Relearning #1:

Infidelity means that one person has "fallen out of love" with his/her spouse and fell "in love" with someone else.

Wrong! Infidelity has nothing to do with love.

• Relearning #2:

Infidelity means something was wrong or lacking in the marriage. (This bogus theory is espoused in much of the therapeutic community - of which I am a part.)

Wrong! What was lacking in your marriage (or you really!) had nothing to do with his/her decision to have an affair.

• Relearning #3:

Infidelity is despicable and is to be roundly condemned.

Wrong: Infidelity is subtly encouraged in our society. (A survey indicated a high percentage of men envy Tiger Woods!) Why do you think grocery tabloids sell so well?

• Relearning #4:

There must be something wrong with you that s/he strayed. You must be defective somehow. It is your problem.

Wrong! You are not the problem. S/he has the problem!

• Relearning #5:

You are the victim and s/he is off having a great time.

Wrong! S/he, in reality, is the victim. "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - from basket case to making your cheating spouse blink" explains this reality.

My e-book "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Spouse Blink" is exclusively devoted to debunking these myths and misunderstandings about infidelity.

Reshaping Your Thinking about Infidelity Restores Your Personal Power and Gives Effectiveness to Act

Once you understand the true nature of infidelity you find comfort, relief and begin your journey of hope.

And, that's what I want for you - to find comfort and inner strength so you can get on EFFECTIVELY in confronting the infidelity in your relationship.

And, once you begin to see infidelity for what it really is - an act of temporary insanity - you feel relief and are comforted.

You receive "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Spouse Blink" in the Beginners Level.

And...you have questions.

Top 10 Questions Most Ask When Confronted with Infidelity

When slammed with infidelity, you have a torrent of questions running through your mind - common questions asked by many.

In "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink" I've categories those questions and provide succinct answers that apply to most situations.

Do you ask any of these:

• How Long will the Pain Last?
• How Do I Get Rid of the Pain?
• How Do I Stop the Affair?
• How Do I Get Him/Her to Talk?
• Do I Confront the Other Person?
• How Do I Get Rid of the Images?
• Should We Have Sex?/
• How Do I Confront My Spouse?
• Will I Ever Trust Again?
• What if S/he Continues Seeing the Other Person?

The Questions you SHOULD Ask to move from
Basket Case to Personal Power

Because there is so much misinformation and underlying confusion about infidelity the questions you SHOULD be asking to get you on the right track are absent.

To help you move, to help you find your comfort so you can pursue a direction, I've answered the top 10 questions you SHOULD ask in "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink:"

• What Type of Affair Do I Face?
• What Support Do I Need?
• Must I Protect Myself in Any Way?
• What Gets Triggered in Me?
• What Do I Think About in My Worst Moments?
• What Strategy Should I Employ (for this type of affair?)
• How Much Do I Tolerate for How Long/
• Do I REALLY Want to be Married to Him/Her?
• What am I Learning About Me?
• What Patterns Do I Want to Break Free From?

Learn from Others Who Have Survived (and Thrived)

The impetus to move from Basket Case to a Position of personal power and leverage is accelerated by knowing that others did it before.

And, not only knowing that they did it, but HOW they did it.

The faithful users (122 of them!) of my materials graciously consented to take time to tell their stories in "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink."

In short story form they tell of significant shifts that took place with themselves or with their spouse that lead to healing and change.

These stories are worth their weight in gold.

You have access to these stories in the Bronze Package.

Once you have gained your equilibrium you are ready to take EFFECTIVE action that stands a good chance of changing the direction of the infidelity.

EFFECTIVE Action Begins by Diagnosing the Affair Facing You

People are different, right? Well, so are affairs. Affairs are exceedingly complex, but there are patterns that you can identify.

What works to break free from one kind of affair will be disaster for another.

Are you confused? Not sure what to say? What to do? Afraid that saying one thing might be destructive? Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells?

Identify specifically what you are up against and you will feel more confident because you know exactly what will work and what will not work.

I've identified 7 kinds of affairs marked by the different excuses most commonly used. These types are thoroughly explained in the second e-book you receive in The Bronze Package:

• #1: My Marriage Made Me Do It
• #2: I Can't Say No
• #3: I Don't Want to Say No
• #4: I Fell Out of Love (and just love being in love)
• #5: I Want to Get Back at Him/Her
• #6: I Need to Prove My Desirability
• #7: I Want to be Close to Someone (which means I can't stand intimacy)

People with different motives have different kinds of affairs. You will learn more about him/her than s/he knows about him/herself.

You will understand his/her personality, how his/her past influences him/her, how s/he typically copes with relationships, his/her self-defeating patterns and more.

It will hit you, "this person has a problem! - and it's not all mine!" (This is not to say you don't have problems, we all do, but they have their origin in you, not someone else or an institution such as marriage.)

Once you understand each kind of affair and the kind of person who engages in that kind of affair, it all makes sense.

• You make better decisions.
• You develop more effective strategies.
• You begin to understand why it is so difficult.
• You feel more confident and centered.
• You have a road map to follow.
• And ... you feel better

The Toughest Question You MUST Ask

Do you ever ask yourself why you remain with someone who is so self-destructive and has such little regard for you? Do you assume others are thinking the same thing: "Why in the world doesn't s/he throw him/her out?"

Here's the question you MUST face FIRST: Do I REALLY want to be (married) in relationship with this person?

Don't jump past this one with, "Sure, I love him/her ... even though s/he's doing this." It usually is a bit more complicated.

Do I REALLY want to be married to him/her? Or do I want to be with him/her out of my own neediness? Or for other reasons?

Here's the underlying problem. If you hold on to the relationship because of your neediness or external factors, the chances of getting what you want are slim.

For each kind of affair, I'll have you consider questions you never thought about; questions that MUST be answered if you have any hope of breaking free.

You will be much clearer on what you REALLY want. He will know and s/he will respect that.

Assess the Odds of Saving the Marriage

As you might guess, the odds of saving your marriage vary according to the kind of affair facing you.

I use a scale of 1 - 10 for each kind of affair and the odds are based on the premise that you and he will continue in the same patterns. For example, I give the "My Marriage Made Me Do It" between an 8 and 9 on a scale of 1-10 where 10 means there is no way the marriage can be saved. I give the "I Want to Get Back at Him" affair (the revenge affair) a 3.

These are not arbitrary numbers. I give multiple reasons for those odds in the E-book.

Predict What Will Happen Next in the Affair

Yes, you can see into the future. Affairs are predictable. Once you identify the patterns you can project ahead and know what most likely will happen next. Here are a few examples:

• You CAN know how long he will be involved in that affair.
• You CAN know whether he is more susceptible to a one-night stand or a long-term affair.
• You CAN predict whether this will be the one and only affair or whether more are down the line.
• You CAN predict the nature of his relationship with the OP.
• You CAN know whether they will live happily ever after.
• You CAN know whether it is primarily a sexual relationship or emotional relationship.
• You CAN predict how and when the affair will end.

Once you have the knowledge, once you understand the person(s), once you see the patterns, it all makes sense.

You See the Larger Picture and Gather
Yourself Emotionally, It's Time to Act

In "Break Free From the Affair" I provide an outline of exactly what action you can take for each kind of affair. I put words into your mouth, giving you phrases you can use with your partner that fit exactly your situation.

With each kind of affair I list skills that work best with that affair and increase your chances for making significant change.

You get 16 skills that you easily learn and apply to the 7 different affairs: (you will only need to learn and apply those skills applicable to the affair facing you. I'll show you the one(s) that will work best for you.)

You will learn when and how to send messages, use silence, get to the real commitment, leap your partner, look for upset, contextualize, peel away layers to the truth, and gap the goal, to name a few.

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Please know that this web site is not a hobby for me.

I closed my private practice (face to face counseling with couples and individuals) in 2002 to dedicate all of my time and energy to develop this site, create practical and hard-hitting materials, research and coach only in the realm of infidelity. (From 20 years of private practice I knew there was little good information and help in that specific area.)

This is my passion. This is my love. This is what I do best.

The material I produce is top of the line. (I say this not to brag but tremendous feedback affirms this. As well, I've earned it - with high priced degrees, hundreds of hours of supervision and years of clinical experience under my belt.)

And so, you get a bargain.

I don't need to remind you that face-to-face therapy would cost you $120 - $150 per 45 minutes with a minimum of 10 sessions before you see results - if then. You do the math.

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And, I attempt to interject a little humor at times. :) Humor often is very healing!

I promise to be there for you more fully during the coming months.

(My vast experience with infidelity indicates that within 3 months you will feel differently, have a vastly different perspective on your situation and clarity will emerge with your cheating spouse.)

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And... wish you the best,

Bob

Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach
bob@bobhuizenga.com
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