postpass2 online cheating – Break Free from the Affair https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Fri, 22 Aug 2014 15:58:54 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 Online Cheating Questions https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/09/06/online-cheating-questions/ https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/09/06/online-cheating-questions/#comments Tue, 06 Sep 2011 14:10:03 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=2395 Continue reading →]]> A

My survey stirred a great response with many questions. Feel free to leave comments below to some of these questions:

I believe that any effort to rekindle old “friendships” or forget new ones online (as by any other means) should be shared, at least in so far to divulge it is happening, with a “significant other” — whether married or not. What say you?
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My husband and I are recovering from his internet cheating. He claims that he would never have started his online fling with an old school classmate if things were not already bad in our marriage. I wonder if he had not met this woman online, would he have eventually spoken to me about the issues in our marriage? I found out by figuring out his password and going in to his Facebook account. At first he said I was invading his privacy. Eventually, he befriended the woman and severed all contact with her, but still communicates with other former classmates. Should I be concerned that the pattern will repeat, or can I trust that now that he and I are communicating and working on our relationship, this will not happen again?
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How do you tell the difference between- “just friends” and something more? What should be the normal “internet” boundaries for someone in a committed relationship? Is it okay to check your spouse’s email, internet history, etc? Should committed couples share internet passwords? Does the other person ever understand the damage they cause? What if the other person tries to make friends with the uninvolved spouse?
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FINALLY!!!! There is NOTHING OUT there that deals with this!!!! That’s where we’ve been for 10+ years! I’ve noticed that my husband can’t make a commitment to anyone in person, men or women, me included, but online, whoa…look out he’s there for everybody!
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My husband found his mistress on an online dating site. when he left me (separated but still not divorced) I hooked up with a guy from online too (via Facebook). It’s too easy to feel like it isn’t really cheating because that person isn’t sitting there next to you, but it’s a short step to moving things to the real world and then developing an attachment that is very hard to break with that person. My husband is still struggling to let go of his mistress.

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Many of my readers responded to a survey on internet cheating with questions. Please note:

My husband had 3 affairs that way with internet, email sex and 3 others looking for men for his virginal trust with another man…I have no questions only answers to yours…I have become an expert at internet cheating on and off the web.

“Going back” through Facebook maybe subtly motivated to redo the pain and loss of that period in life. Why would someone do that. What is the underlying reason when you kinda know that you can’t go back and change anything. Everyone is a piece of your past and help in creating who you are. When I think about internet cheating, I basically think of having a cyber relationship with the opposite sex that is more than the occasional how are you. Flirting, sending drinks, pokes, gifts etc… I think when you really look forward to talking to that person than it’s a problem. I see a friend doing it now. You get hooked. As far as friends, it’s great seeing old classmates.

Are their blockers to stop the cheater from logging on and ways to track where they go and who they talk to? How can we as the betrayed spouse help our cheaters to detox from the effects of an online affair?

My husband conducted an affair partially over the internet. He was seeing and emailing a coworker. This ended with his asking for a divorce, leaving and then returning to attempt to repair our marriage. I have always respected his privacy and individuality to find it was a mistake. About six months ago he was contacted by an old high school girlfriend on Facebook. At first I continued to be naive. I saw no harm in old friends seeking each other out now that it is so much easier. Then I became aware that this had been an intense sexual relationship. A fact he had not initially disclosed. It was then that I realized that he stills harbors the potential to stray into this seductive zone. I believe he has since given me all the facts and he has limited his Facebook account to only family. We are 50 something and I still struggle with the ease at which these infidelities can be hidden. I fear for the younger generation in earlier stages of marriages etc. We had been together 24 years when all this began.

How similar is this to having a relationship with someone through text messaging. My husband and the other woman sent thousands of text messages to each other, but did not have a relationship on the internet. Their relationship was texting.

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