postpass2 marriage problem – Break Free from the Affair https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Fri, 30 Jan 2015 15:54:11 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 The Distant Spouse is Either In or Out https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2013/05/12/the-distant-spouse-is-either-in-or-out/ https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2013/05/12/the-distant-spouse-is-either-in-or-out/#comments Sun, 12 May 2013 16:10:45 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=6419 Continue reading →]]> Young couple arguing in their living room

Often a polarity emerges in which you are forced to decide whether you are in or out. Perhaps your spouse asks you to make that decision. Perhaps family and friends offer their opinion to either get in or walk away.

So you think: I either must act like a wonderful spouse, even if I don’t feel like it, or I must bolt and divorce. There is no middle ground.

You also begin to compare and think in polarity of bad and good.

My life here really sucks. This is terrible. I can’t stand this anymore.

What did you take away from this video? Please share below.

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These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition.

You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do.

And, long, long ago, it worked. Your pattern seemed back then the best way for you to cope, considering a number of factors about you, your family and your world.

Your coping pattern is your default coping mode.

You use it time and time again, UNLESS, you become aware of your way to cope with intimacy and a part of you decides you want to try something different.

Please leave your thoughts below. How has his/her coping mechanisms contributed to the affair or infidelity?

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If you are a female, you may carry the weight of believing you must be sexy. You must be provocative. You must look sexy. You must turn him on. Your breasts, you legs, your abs, your rear become the focus of your attention. You work hard to “strut your stuff” so that you can, as they say, “keep your man.”

You must be alluring. There needs to be a little mystery about you.

And, of course, when he is turned on you must be ready, waiting and responsive.

You know how important sex is to him and realize that those moments may be the moments in which he feels closest to you and values you the most. He equates sex with romance.

It is understandable that you pull away, as a part of you internally rebels at either romance or sexiness.

Please leave your comments below. How have the roles of being romantic or sexy contributed to the infidelity?

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