postpass2 Comments for Break Free from the Affair https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:56:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 Comment on This knowledge Will Save Your Sanity and Maybe Marriage by John https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2021/04/20/this-knowledge-will-save-your-sanity-and-maybe-marriage/#comment-271848 Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:56:06 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=13711#comment-271848 After 38 years of marriage I just found out my wife has been having an affair the past 3 years with her boss. They hid it so well I never expected a thing. Lucky for me his wife caught them. She tells me she still loves me and doesn’t want me to leave and that it’s over now. But still just constantly lies about it when I find out stuff from the affair

]]> Comment on Once a Cheater Always a Cheater!? by Confusedmyself https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2016/02/11/once-a-cheater-always-a-cheater/#comment-266287 Wed, 23 Feb 2022 04:47:54 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=12785#comment-266287 In reply to Liliana.

Were you able to get past it? Did you try? My position isn’t too far different than yours.

]]> Comment on Confronting the Other Person and the Emotional Affair by Tina https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/04/confronting-the-other-person-and-the-emotional-affair/#comment-265296 Sun, 09 Jan 2022 15:00:29 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=203#comment-265296 In reply to Zoe Williams.

Husband of 25 years had an emotional affair with the a much younger “friend”. I knew it for sometime but it was denied and i was told I was over reacting and crazy. Caused total chaos when the truth came out , lost a close family friendship, his career and my trust. Kept it hidden from my adult child and friends and have been navigating this alone for a year now. Not knowing all the sorted details have been hard for me because I’m one that needs to piece everything together. Over time I have realized what he did had nothing to do with me. Our marriage wasn’t the greatest but it was his decision to betray me. I was in the same marriage too and didn’t make that choice. I never thought I would stay but here I am but I can say that my boundaries are firm. I’ve learned his choices are not a reflection of me but of him. I have found freedom in that and also making myself a priority. Slowly finding peace and hope you do too

]]> Comment on Should I Confront my Cheating Spouse’s Enabling Friends? by Christy https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2017/10/27/should-i-confront-my-cheating-spouses-enabling-friends/#comment-264595 Fri, 17 Dec 2021 21:29:31 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=13132#comment-264595 What do you do when the ppl that enabled, or went along to get along are other family members? The other family members felt uncomfortable with the way this person acted around my husband and didn’t trust this other woman, yet never said anything to me(his spouse) about it? What do you do? Say nothing? Write a letter to them? How do I forgive them? MY REAL family wouldve said something to me. My inlaws, not so much. I find myself disappointed and angry with them.

]]> Comment on Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2 by Busy https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/06/21/getting-himher-to-talk-part-2/#comment-264267 Tue, 07 Dec 2021 04:19:19 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=474#comment-264267 My husband just stone walls and refuses to talk period. He lives in my basement and refuses to leave while messaging call girls and porn stars. We have 4 children. 2 are at home with the youngest 17. The 3 oldest have pretty much disowned him. I guess I only have the divorce option left. I so hoped he would come around but he just avoids everyone except his phone.

]]> Comment on Clues of an Emotional Affair by Michele https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2012/03/30/clues-of-an-emotional-affair/#comment-261548 Thu, 16 Sep 2021 14:06:40 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=3196#comment-261548 If the emotional affair partner lives far away, many of these don’t apply. Picking random fights, due to guilt and shame, or to distract you was the only red flag I got. Lying by omission was our biggest hurdle.

]]> Comment on Infidelity Discovery: From Devastation to Optimism by Unlucky Spouse I guess https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/02/08/infidelity-discovery-from-devastation-to-optimism/#comment-260095 Sun, 18 Jul 2021 19:02:22 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=366#comment-260095 In reply to Some guy.

Um yeah I agree. If the other person knew they were married then they’re both cheaters, I don’t see why there would be a question about that being the case. It’s even in the Bible if you read/believe that. Just saying. Both people are cheaters and if you’re dating someone who has messed around cheating with a married person odds aren’t they’re going to cheat on you too.

]]> Comment on You Really are Normal! by Betty https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2021/03/10/you-really-are-normal/#comment-259881 Sun, 11 Jul 2021 22:19:37 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=13664#comment-259881 After 15 years, him off and on with me and other woman after our divorce , I just gave up . I am texted and called some days several times like keeping tract of me . When asked him if him he says not him but I run #’s and know it is . He married for 3rd time now says he is happy . But I’m sure not. I block calls and texts. He knows where I live if wants to talk .

]]> Comment on Confronting the Other Person and the Emotional Affair by Cynthia Mcelrea https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/04/confronting-the-other-person-and-the-emotional-affair/#comment-259073 Tue, 08 Jun 2021 03:43:25 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=203#comment-259073 My husband had an emotional affair with the mother of my granddaughters best friend that lasted a few weeks but was very hot and heavy…. he raved on to me at our dining room table how fabulous her breasts looked in a picture she sent… like none he had ever seen! They made arrangements to ‘get together’. I believe him when he says nothing physically happened but I think it was only because they got caught first. She said she has always dreamed of having sex with a cowboy and he said he could make that happen. And on it went until I found a picture of her genitalia on his phone and confronted him about it.
The affair ended but she only lives two doors down so has caused chaos in our lives to the point I have had to call the police because of her threats to me.
We have been together for 16 years and very good friends since childhood. We are both in our sixties… she is 40.
I am devastated, feeling so betrayed and hurt. This happened months ago and I have been in therapy but the pain is very intense. I don’t want to make the changes that separation would cause but I don’t want to live with a cheater. I am so torn. I was at the point of attempting suicide but am past that although I often feel I don’t have the strength to go on. I struggle to get through the day. I am a mess. He says I should just put it behind me and we can move forward with an even better life. He says he has changed. I so don’t know and I don’t know what to do. I don’t understand how he could do this. Cindy

]]> Comment on Confronting the Other Person and the Emotional Affair by Undecided https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/04/confronting-the-other-person-and-the-emotional-affair/#comment-259034 Sun, 06 Jun 2021 20:46:03 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=203#comment-259034 In reply to Survivor.

I mean, that’s a seriously good point. Why bother trying to fix it, no matter which type of affair it was, literally do you want to go through that again? And why should you have to change the way you look at it and behave if their the ones that decided to go off. If they want to stay and work it out I don’t see why you have to walk on ice to help them see what they’re missing. Idk, I just feel worse reading the whole thing it’s not about love and it was never about love…it’s like okay well obviously they didn’t love me enough not to cheat.?

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