postpass2 marriage makeover – Break Free from the Affair https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Tue, 09 Sep 2014 17:51:54 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 Marriage Communication: Allowing Your Partner to Know Who You Truly Are https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2012/06/21/marriage-communication-allowing-your-partner-to-know-who-you-truly-are/ https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2012/06/21/marriage-communication-allowing-your-partner-to-know-who-you-truly-are/#respond Thu, 21 Jun 2012 14:00:55 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/?p=4114 Continue reading →]]> How well is your marriage communication? Do you tell your partner everything that you are going through? Do you open up and let him or her in? Or do you hide and keep everything to yourself?

Don’t be afraid to let your partner know who you are and have great marriage communication. There are a lot of people in relationships who don’t really open themselves up and let their partners in.

Trust is built in relationships by being open about who you are and entrusting yourself to your partner through open and honest marriage communication.

This is something that not everybody can do, mostly because a lot of people are not truly aware of who they really are. They tend to go through life on autopilot, focusing only on things that they feel they have to do like their jobs and careers; concerning themselves mostly about the image they project to other people and how others perceive them; and talking about things and events that are happening outside them or that they really shouldn’t be concerned about. Most of them have cautious or reluctant marriage communication because they are afraid to share their thoughts and opinions, their values in life and other things that are important to them on a personal level.

Although this doesn’t necessarily destroy the trust in your relationship, it doesn’t develop it either. And most of the time, not having an open marriage communication creates marriage problems that don’t necessarily have to be there. If you find that you are in a position similar to this, take some time to reflect on yourself and try to find ways to repair your marriage communication. Discover the things that are most important to you – what you want your relationship to be, the things you believe in and the things you don’t, what values are important to you and what drives you in life.

Once you’ve figured out what these things are, share them with the people in your life that are significant to you, especially your spouse. This will not only allow him or her to get to know you on a deeper level, but it will create respect, a more powerful and effective marriage communication and develop the trust you have in each other even more because they will know exactly who you are.

]]> https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2012/06/21/marriage-communication-allowing-your-partner-to-know-who-you-truly-are/feed/ 0 Marriage Makeover Checklist: Dare to Be Honest https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/04/19/marriage-makeover-dare-to-be-honest/ https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/04/19/marriage-makeover-dare-to-be-honest/#comments Tue, 19 Apr 2011 14:59:14 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=419 Continue reading →]]> Marriage Communication Checklist

I’ve created a new instrument for identifying the fears and barriers present during the initial attempts at communication for a couple trying to rebuild a torn marriage.

Even if your spouse is not in the picture, this exercise will enlighten and prepare you for future intimate relationships.

The exercise is called: Dare to Be Honest.

Below are some key points and instructions. Follow the link after the instructions to download the entire exercise.

Key Points:

1. This exercise helps you identify specific fears and barriers to engaging your spouse or significant other in a positive manner.

2. Begin to note and identify when and where your fears or blocks emerge in communication with your spouse.

3. Begin to make shifts and alter your fears, enabling you to communicate more powerfully with your spouse or significant other.

4. Share this exercise with your spouse if s/he is there and receptive.

5. Invite your spouse to disclose his/her fears and barriers that hinder honesty. Listen. Accept. Make no judgments.

Instructions:

Read through the list and check the top 5 blocks or fears that apply to you.

Note any patterns or consistent behaviors that block your communication.

Print a copy for your spouse or significant other.

Let him/her know you have completed the exercise and what you discovered about you.

Hand the copy to him/her and invite him/her to participate.

Click the link at the end of this exercise to fill out survey regarding usefulness of this exercise.

Go here to download and use the exercise:

https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/downloads/daretobehonest.pdf

And, please complete the survey at the end. I appreciate your wisdom!

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