How to End the Infidelity Pain
and Begin Repairing Your Relationship
Dr. Bob Huizenga
25,000+ client hours as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Author: First and Best Selling E-book, “Break Free From the Affair.”
Success You can TRUST
You are at the right place.
How do I know that?
Well, I assume you are…
- determined to have something better
- you have the courage to seek out something better
- you’re open, seeking and want to learn.
- you have sensitivity and compassion
- And, you are in pain.
You want to move beyond your pain.
You want a relationship of TRUST, honesty,
mutual acceptance and respect.
I have resources developed over years of working professionally with people that will help you…
- Find Fast Relief and get Quick Results
- and THEN Work Toward Permanent Change you can TRUST
The Problem:
Common Sense Approaches Do Not Work
You are taught and assume that affairs are based on common sense.
So, various “common sense” helpers tell you to do one of three things…
- Some say… give an ultimatum. Kick em out. Use tough love. Don’t put up that crap! S/he is not worth it. Stand up for yourself.
- Some say… pretend you are NOT in pain and agony. The affair will fizzle and they will come back some day. Don’t rock the boat. Be nice, accommodate. Try to meet their needs and win them back.
- Some say… Make changes. Learn to communicate better. Push for couples counseling. Begin working on the marriage. Become more attractive. Go on a self improvement kick.
Here’s the problem: Affairs are NOT based on Common Sense.
Affairs are Acts of
Temporary Insanity
Why in the world would your spouse risk loss of reputation and personal respect, loss of job, loss of contact with children and family, financial ruin and loss of internal peace and well being for a relationship that fails 90% of the time and will only last temporarily????
Doesn’t make sense!
I’ve discovered over the past 3 decades of research, study and clinical experience with untold couples that common sense approaches do NOT work with infidelity.
Couples counseling, learning communication skills, meeting needs, pretending you are not in pain so they will come back or being tough, putting down the law, leaning new skills or going on a self improvement kick don’t work.
(And if there is a hint of success, it’s because you got lucky and aligned your effort with the type of affair. Or there is a coming back together out of fear and/or guilt which will implode later into a bigger crisis.)
You Need Not be Stuck for Years or Even Weeks
I’ve heard horror stories of some wallowing in the pain of betrayal for years!
Can you imagine that – a life consumed by mistrust, anger and pain year after year?
I’ve encountered too many swirling in the confusion and discouragement of using Common Sense Approaches.
