postpass2 Comments on: “I Fell Out of Love” and Confronting the Other Person https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/ How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Wed, 10 May 2017 00:11:12 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 By: DMG https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-114239 Wed, 10 May 2017 00:11:12 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-114239 Speaking from experience, confronting the “other person” never results in a positive outcome. It only brings up negative emotions and actions. Wish it could have been different!?

]]> By: TREE https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-112763 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 04:53:42 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-112763 In reply to Melissa.

YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND THAT IF HE WANTS TO WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE ANY MORE CONTACT IS NOT APPROPRIATE. IF YOU STILL HAVE SUSPICIONS, YOU NEED TO TELL HIM HE NEEDS TO BE 100% TRANSPARENT (MEANING YOU CAN HAVE ACCESS TO HIS PHONE, COMPUTER, ALL PASS WORDS ECT ANYTIME). IF HE CAN’T DO THAT FOR YOU, THEN HE IS NOT BEING TRANSPARENT WHICH MEANS HE HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE. THEN YOU HAVE TO BASICALLY GIVE HIM THE CHOICE HER OR YOU! I DIDN’T DO THAT AT THE BEGINNING, BUT IT FINALLY CAME TO THAT, AND THAT IS WHEN MY HUSBAND RECOMMITTED TO ME!

]]> By: #last2know https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-112757 Tue, 21 Feb 2017 01:59:06 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-112757 I did contact OW by letter that contained my email. I was respectful and gracious. I wanted her to know I was real and what the 2 of them had done effected several people. She wrote me back and I was able to ask questions. Of course she deflected all fault away from her.

It was cathartic and gave me power.

I would weigh all options but it worked for me.

]]> By: Melissa https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-112744 Mon, 20 Feb 2017 16:53:07 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-112744 Just recently found out that my husband was having an affair for a few months and he tells me that he’s sorry but I feel like that they might still be in contact with each other. I don’t know what to do?

]]> By: Duncan https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-110065 Mon, 10 Oct 2016 02:19:12 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-110065 Wow…that was a real crappy and low thing to do at Christmas time just to make yourself feel better. God bless your wife.

]]> By: honorable gentleman https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-108378 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 00:56:47 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-108378 I confronted the OM knowing that my wife and he had been friends for a very long time. I was a pure Gentleman and respectful knowing that at that time, out classing him would prove I was the better person. I didn’t demean and informed him that I was aware of his inappropriate relationship with my wife and that his relationship with her was over. I kindly asked him to reciprocate the fact that I was being a pure gentleman, especially under the condition,s and asked him to do the same. I then proceeded to request that he permanently delete any pictures, emails, texts, chats and contact info. My final request was that he inform his own wife of what he had been involved with. I said good and 1 week later I texted him for the last time and asked him of he performed his gentlemanly duties. He said yes and no further contact was necessary.

It was a gamble that paid off. He knew I knew about his past relationship with my wife and he was never challenged. I knew he was a coward all those years. And so i pulled the upper hand by putting my voice in his head.

]]> By: Kathy https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/29/i-fell-out-of-love-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-106309 Sun, 10 Apr 2016 23:16:57 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=215#comment-106309 That is such right on information!
I belittled the ow by texts and I played right into the poor, misunderstood partner.
Listen, please to this advice.
I’m getting divorced now because I was a shrew and not willing to, “Win him back…”

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