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		<title>Types of Affairs: Affair #1 &#8211; My Marriage Made Me Do It</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Dr. Bob Huizenga]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Mar 2011 15:39:18 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Learn about affair type #1, or the "My Marriage Made Me Do It" type of affair. Discover which questions to ask if you are trying to pinpoint exactly which type of affair you are faced with. <a href="https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2011/03/25/types-of-affairs-affair-1-my-marriage-made-me-do-it/">Continue reading <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
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<p>Here&#8217;s a question regarding types of affairs. This question specifically addresses affair type #1, or the &#8220;My Marriage Made Me Do It&#8221; affair:</p>
<p><strong>Question:</strong> How do I handle it If they didn&#8217;t intentionally go out looking for someone, but found someone at a new job site while training? He kissed her twice, and supposedly texted her for the next six months. Is this affair number one (affair #1 is the My Marriage Made Me Do It <a href="https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/coping-with-infidelity-types-affairs.htm">type of affair</a>, which is discussed in my ebook, Break Free From the Affair)? He says we have had a crummy marriage and that&#8217;s why he cheated.</p>
<p><strong>Dr. Huizenga&#8217;s Answer:</strong> OK. That may be affair number one, and she flattered him. It <em>could</em> be number one. However, I need much more information. When I evaluate these, I ask a bunch of questions, but it does sound like a number one. Here are some additional questions I might ask regarding this type of affair: Is he angry? Does he blame others for his situation? Talk about flattery. Does he have <a href="https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2013/04/23/affair-and-recovery-of-self-respect/">low self esteem</a>? Is he trying to prove his desirability, or is he a highly emotional kind of person who likes to feel the emotional highs? Those are all questions I would ask to kind of hone in, and pinpoint the type of affair. Again, there&#8217;s some overlap in these affairs. We can&#8217;t always fit everybody into one specific category. Many people fall into more than one category in terms of the type of affair in which they are involved.</p>
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