postpass2 Comments on: “I Don’t Want to Say No” and Confronting the Other Person https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/ How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Thu, 31 Aug 2017 07:00:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 By: Pedro https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-117073 Thu, 31 Aug 2017 07:00:06 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-117073 In reply to Kelly.

Stay strong, i assure you theres no way that you will have it worse. A little bit hard at first, but soon as each day passes by, you will feel and know, you made the correct decision.

]]> By: Kelly https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-114464 Sat, 20 May 2017 04:10:43 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-114464 In reply to J.

Its an encouragement to read what you have written. I just hope I can. I am planning to walk away from marriage of 21 years and move on because my husband affair and he can let the other woman go. It’s too painful for me to stay.

]]> By: J https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-114462 Sat, 20 May 2017 02:13:27 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-114462 Definitely, it’s impossible to deal with people with Narssicist personality or sociopath or phycopath…no matter how much you try to understand them or give them what they want, they do not have the ability to look at themselves in the mirror and take full responsibility of their actions or their lives for that matter…they always blames others, situations or whatever, nothing is their fault and they always have excuses…
Having said that, I tired to stick with marriage after I discovered my wife was cheating on me three two months after we got married after 7 years of relationship…, it did not work out, but I know I did everything I could to save the marriage and understand her…I realized at one point that she no longer wanted to be with me and I accepted and moved on…but then, I was able to learn from the relationship where things I could have done better because although she should never have done what she did, I would certainly made our relationship better if I had known what she might have been going through…so it was good lesson I learned and the lesson I learned was so valuable.
I am now in a new and better relationship, but had I now going through what I had gone through, I would not be able to appreciate and treasure this new relationship as much as now.
So everything happens for a reason and as long as you can always take full responsibility for what happens and learn from the mistakes and stay positive and don’t turn sour because of the bad experience, God will help you have better life and bless with you happiness.
Do the best you can and when the time come for you to know that it’s time to move on, just move on and learn from the experience. You will be amazed how much you have grown from the experience!!

]]> By: Denise Alford https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-114447 Fri, 19 May 2017 16:53:46 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-114447 I was married to a narcissist who had numerous affairs for almost 40 years. I left and it was the BEST thing I have ever done. People like that don’t deserve to have you in their life children or no children!

]]> By: Dianah https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-112184 Sun, 29 Jan 2017 21:19:21 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-112184 In reply to DJ.

100 percent CORRECT!! They Will CHEAT in one form or another. No Integrity or Truth in them. Patterns are patterns especially when a person is only Angry at being caught (i got called a tattle tale!). Boo F’n Hoo I made your little girlfriends ? You & They deserved what happened-Our Children & I DID NOT!!

]]> By: Trish Pruitt https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-111834 Wed, 11 Jan 2017 06:19:58 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-111834 In reply to Emma.

Nancy and Emma –

I’d like to hear from you both also on how things went.

]]> By: Emma https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-109638 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 04:53:41 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-109638 In reply to Nancy.

Hi Nancy.. I’m new to this website and new to being cheated on. I see a lot of similarities in your story except I am just in the relationship and not married … I’m still trying to figure out what to do ..give it another chance or just leave for good .. I would really appreciate to hear from you about how you are doing and what happened in your marriage since February… To hear from you would mean the world to me …..,M

]]> By: DJ https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-109636 Sun, 11 Sep 2016 02:34:29 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-109636 people don’t change, they become a better version of themselves, once a cheater always a cheater

]]> By: Nancy https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/11/26/i-dont-want-to-say-no-and-confronting-the-other-person/#comment-104928 Tue, 16 Feb 2016 22:52:31 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=213#comment-104928 My husband chose to develop an emotional relationship with a girl half his age (early 20s) at work. He fits the description of the mix, my marriage made me do it and I don’t want to say no. Narcissism runs in his blood and he wanted his needs met to fuel his ego instead of his heart and mind. He truly was caught when I found out one evening at home when I turned on my iPad and for some reason my iPad had synced with his so I saw the conversation and pictures appear before my eyes, it was just scrolling by. He lied, denied, and would not reveal the truth. He was more angry that he got caught than ashamed at what he had done. so I texted the young woman, got to chat and get lots of info from her and then confronted him after. I took the power and made it mine and it is what I needed to remain calm and collected. He became very unsure as to what would happen next and I explained what I needed from him and although it took a very long time as he was entrenched in this new babe he had in the palm of his hand, he got over it for the most part. I rebuilt my life, got a new hobby, new friends, and he sees that it doesn’t matter if he stays or leaves I have it covered. I am doing well, I have learned a lot from reading the book Break free from the affair and charging neutral. I swear my husband did not know what hit him! So stay strong and good for you for finding the strength and getting that power to help you in your relationship. And just to fuel this a little more, what made my husband look outside of the marriage is due to me finding out I had diabetes and needed to make a radical life change which I did in order to become healthier. While I was focussing on myself, I did not focus on him as much of course and he lacked attention so he went outside the marriage to get what he was craving instead of speaking with me. This would have easily been rectified had I known what I was doing or not doing for him at the time because I was quite freaked out about my situation at the time. It did help to know why.

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