postpass2 Comments on: How to Catch a Cheating Husband https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/ How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Tue, 27 Mar 2018 07:35:52 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 By: Justme https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-122497 Tue, 27 Mar 2018 07:35:52 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-122497 In reply to ju.

Thank you for your words. You’re right, I’ve always noticed that no matter how beautiful/ attractive/ kind/ smart/ etc etc the partner is, there would always be someone like that being cheated on. I think it’s also because the cheater just got so blind after a while and take the other partner for granted that they lose sight of how they should be thankful for what they have, and instead they step outside the marriage and try to fulfill their selfish “needs”.

Being cheated on is one of the most traumatic things you can do to your partner. The trauma can be so severe that they can develop mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety, and sometimes even to the point of physical illnesses where they experience a heart attack, acid reflux/ gastric, low/ high blood pressure due to the stress, absent-mindedness and forgetfulness due to the preoccupation with thoughts of the betrayal.. and so on.

]]> By: ju https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-122394 Sat, 24 Mar 2018 14:11:21 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-122394 more than a little disturbing to me is giving the cheat an excuse and then directing the blame to the innocent one..its wrong on every level, and my own experience of being cheated on leads me to the conclusion that no matter what kind of person you are, whether it be beautiful, kind, trusting, naive etc if someone is going to cheat there’s not a thing can be done to prevent it, its not a certain type that cheats but it is a personal choice, each person has a way of dealing with problems in life and sadly this is another of those problems..please don’t feel bad as its not you with the problem its them and ultimately they will have to go thru life wondering if their loved one is doing the same to them which is karma, i know im a good person and the resulting pain of infidelity is very deep and confusing but by them doing the unthinkable tells me that they didnt deserve the unconditional love i gave, i believe that everything is fixable except lying and that’s the point of no return for me. good luck and don’t sell yourselves short.

]]> By: John https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-119459 Thu, 07 Dec 2017 17:43:02 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-119459 In reply to Dorothy M Neddermeyer, PhD.

I was with you until you made a comment about how it’s a “pointed assault on women because more men have affairs than (wo)men”. I expect someone as educated as yourself to not attempt to drag the discussion away from it’s true topic. As a man whose wife cheated on him, I find the comment very offensive and completely sexist. How dare you try to turn something as emotionally heartbreaking as an affair into gender stereotyping!

]]> By: Heartbroken https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-116372 Wed, 02 Aug 2017 16:10:14 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-116372 In reply to Cindy.

Those women who try to steal your husband know exactly what to say and do. Divorce your husband. If you have been married for 30 years he probably only wants to stay married so you won’t take half of the money. My husband cheated on me with two women, both of whom were unattractive, but they knew what to say to stroke his ego. My husband had a mother and father who beat him as a child and as someone said in the comments, he didn’t get love where he should have as a child and feels unloved by people who really do love him. And when someone comes along who pays more attention to him than you do, ugly or not, and ultimately starts saying how horrible the wife is for ignoring him, he will be likely to stray.

]]> By: pam https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-113155 Sat, 11 Mar 2017 02:25:06 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-113155 In reply to Jalé Dalton.

I agree … I’ve been thru this twice and the only thing I can see that is my fault is that I can’t tell an honest man from a player. I gave them everything I had physically and financially and emotionally … It wasn’t enough for their ego …. But I am having the last laugh … They’re finding out how much love I gave and what they don’t have now.

]]> By: Cindy https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-112380 Mon, 06 Feb 2017 00:46:08 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-112380 My husband now lives with his 3rd affair. She is not beautiful nor pretty. Shes been mistaken for a guy!! Why would he be even interested in someone like this, has me dumbfounded. He says he still loves me but hes still with her. Im devastated by all of his cheating and lying. We’ve been married for 30 years. He doesn’t want a divorce, just to do what he wants while I’m left behind.

]]> By: Dorothy M Neddermeyer, PhD https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-112378 Sun, 05 Feb 2017 23:43:00 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-112378 In reply to Justine.

SPOT ON!! Blaming the faithful spouse after an affair is punitive and solves nothing. Furthermore, it is a pointed assault on women because more men have affairs than men.

]]> By: Shaun https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-112346 Sat, 04 Feb 2017 03:55:40 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-112346 In reply to JohnH.

John thank you! Been trying to make sense of my husbsd”s affair… You helped… Selfish is it.

]]> By: Travellers Wife https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-112331 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 18:50:18 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-112331 I switched off at the point where the author gave the husband an excuse to cheat!!! Omg!! Well in that case I can cheat too? >.<

]]> By: JohnH https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2010/03/12/106/#comment-112330 Fri, 03 Feb 2017 16:50:23 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=106#comment-112330 How insulting to all us BS…………there is absolutely NOTHING that EVER “causes” a person to cheat other than their own selfish decision and desire to seek validation of and for themselves borne of an inherent inability to be completely honest with their partner as to why the feel troubled, worried, unloved, unhappy etc etc which deep seated reason(s) often derive from a personal character deficiency arising or formed from before the relationship even started. As Justine says: “…if you’re unhappy tell me about it or divorce me but don’t cheat on me!!”

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