postpass2 Comments on: Do I Truly Want to be Married to Him/Her? https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/ How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Wed, 25 Jan 2017 05:02:14 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 By: tree https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-112103 Wed, 25 Jan 2017 05:02:14 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-112103 i listened to the video ‘do i want to be married to him OR…….’. well that sure is a tough question! i think ALL those things are true!!! so how do i know? it is not a simple question!

]]> By: tree https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-112102 Wed, 25 Jan 2017 04:57:36 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-112102 In reply to Beth.

oh beth, they say that IF he truly is remorseful you have a better chance than starting with someone new! BUT he must be completely transparent, be willing to talk to you and answer any questions you may have and KNOW it WILL take time for him to earn your trust back!
it CAN happen! get help if it will make it easier….counseling?, positive, inspirational books you can read together (recommend LOVE & RESPECT, the LOVE DARE & it’s movie called FIREPROOF)?, PRAY?, listen to KLOVE radio or similar (uplifting/inspirational)?, mediator to encourage those difficult conversations?, self help/growth activities?, whatever you can think of to help you learn to trust again!!! love and peace to you!

]]> By: Rik Hunter https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-109616 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 22:08:16 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-109616 In reply to Dr. Robert Huizenga – The Infidelity Coach.

I’m absolutely with Lisa, the video medium seems to ‘get in the way’ for me.
The written stuff I can mull over and re-read, it’s so important that I feel the videos somehow exclude me.
The written word, from you and correspondents, is so useful – and can be addressed in private and referred to in part or whole at will.
Time has to be set aside to watch video, I can’t, so don’t do it and feel I’m missing subtleties and nuances from you that are so important.

]]> By: diane https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-249 Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:42:05 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-249 Yes I do, Yes I do, Yes I do!!!
He has been so dedicated and faithful that I took it for granted, now he says I haven’t been meeting his needs and I put the children before him. If only….I am trying but he doesn’t want to consider a reconciliation…I’m so frustrated. I know that love between us is buried, not lost but it’s getting harder and we are losing our intimacy day by day. OMG

]]> By: donna https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-248 Mon, 31 Aug 2009 13:59:02 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-248 i was told 4 days before our 13 wedding aniv. in october and 2 day before our week vacation. i chose to take the vacation hopping things would work out. we even took the march vacation things kept going back and forth. we even planned a vacation with some of his family for a november 2008 vacation – he was still being nice. i know now he was only being nice because if i did not go on this vacation he was not going to get to go because the other family members were going to back out if i did not go. now what does that tell you about that. (he was taking collect calls from her while she was in jail) i filed for a divorce because he wanted me to, then he wanted me to cancel because he wanted to be married. then he filed not telling me. he left year ago in june 2008, divorce will be about one year coming this october. he left me for a married drug using slut – she took him for over $70,000.00 and has now droped him for her husband. now he is with another slut that about ended us before we married – she lives out of state and for some reason she can’t leave the state, or can’t take the kids (2 diffrent dad’s) out of the state – another winner. even though it has been over a year – i still want him back – i’m 50 years old and i don’t want to start all over again. my mind is telling me to move on, but the heart is saying hold on. i know how you feel. only you can figure out what to do.

]]> By: Geraldine Horgan https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-247 Fri, 28 Aug 2009 09:27:16 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-247 My husband has a 17 year old from an affair of 20 year. he lived a double life and lied to me obviously and made my life hell. i am now separated and at this point in time dont ever want to see him again.

]]> By: Geanie https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-246 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:01:34 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-246 As usual…you’re the best. I do need to answer all of these questions. I’m still not sure. I do want rid of the pain…no doubt. I would like to be married to him if I could really believe that he wants to be married to me and will stop his activities. Not sure if I can live with the affects though.

]]> By: Beth https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-245 Thu, 27 Aug 2009 10:55:47 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-245 Like Chris,I am also just about 2 years away from the day I was confronted by her husband/my neighbor to let me know our spouses had been having an affair for 3 months. Still not sure I can do this long-term. With 2 kids, it’s a tough choice to make – have to keep their best interests at heart and not act selflishly. The affair abruptly ended & my husband is totally remorseful and committed to our marriage. Just don’t know if it’s too late for me!

]]> By: Betty https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-244 Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:12:22 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-244 Bernie,
Thats seems to be the type they go for, sad but true. There is nothing good about the woman they pick thats for sure. They have no morals of any Kind. My 1st X husband I was married to for 29 1/2 years and he had affairs from start. I told him the 3 time I caught him 3 times you are out. 2nd one married to for 9 years. they both picked the slut type woman. don’t understand that, but seems to be what they think they want. My second been gone 4 years and I still miss him and wish he would wake up and come home. but don’t look like that is ever going to happen, and I cry over it for I am pretty well done with man since these too. and I have no desire for anyone other then the 2nd X husband. The first would be a blessing to be rid of him. he is like the Devil from Hell.

]]> By: Bernie https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/08/19/do-i-truly-want-to-be-married-to-himher/#comment-243 Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:15:43 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=60#comment-243 Well everyone things are just getting started for me he left Feb 27th and I did not find out until that morning after he had made love to me that things were bad I was holding his hand and asked him where his ring was ,you see he had been working so many hours his job is stressing and he also works another job as well anyway he tells me “oh I took it off and besides we are seperated” He blindsided me that night he spent the night in a motel with the girl he is now living with . I still love him so very much we have neen together for 27 yrs and married 23 may 10th it just hurts so much and this women he is with sent me a text saying ” I want to thankyou for allowing to steal your husband with just a kiss HaHa sucks to be you”

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