postpass2 Comments on: Can I Stop the Affair? https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/ How to Survive Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs: Find the Help, Advice and Coaching Your Marriage Needs. Sun, 19 Apr 2015 11:54:42 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.8 By: RG https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-73068 Sun, 19 Apr 2015 11:54:42 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-73068 In reply to Geraldine Horgan.

The part of your comment that struck a chord with me was “20 years of verbal abuse.” I have endured that. This, however, is a second marriage. We have no children together, but we have added a child to our lives (Our/my grandson). We both agreed to this.

]]> By: Liz https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-155 Tue, 04 Aug 2009 02:16:55 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-155 I found your comment quite beautiful and poignant (for a man). And, I too, feel the same way about my marriage commitment..even though I have a cheating spouse at this stage of the game. I can only hope that someday he will become the man you are today. (You get it!) Hang in there. I know your pain. God will surely provide for you (he already has). My hope is your partner realizes the wonderful man and marriage she is putting at risk. Take comfort in knowing your are in the palm of God’s hand always.

]]> By: Riza https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-154 Sun, 02 Aug 2009 08:21:07 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-154 I admit that there are women who are manipulative but not all as not all men are cheaters.Both genders can do what the other does.It just really comes to a persons traits,values and morals that separates him or her from the selfish ones who thinks nothing but one’s self.

]]> By: Janice https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-153 Fri, 31 Jul 2009 20:52:25 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-153 Walter G:

And, men are NOT manipulative and they are NOT ‘always Number One’ to them? I beg to differ.

I lived with my husband for 2 1/2 years before we married…we have been married for 24 years. The INSTANT we signed the marriage license, he changed (judging from a remark he made to the minister the second we signed). In 26 1/2 years, I have never been ‘physically’ with anyone else, even though he has ignored me constantly.

We separated once, ten years ago…when I told him: “I am done being your doormat…I have nothing left to give to you”. Suddenly, he was, once again, the man I fell in love with. Suddenly, he couldn’t live without me.

Now, after ten years of being back ‘home’, he’s having an affair with a young, stupid, girl he works with; listens to ‘metal rock n’ roll’ (something he could never stand); has LONG hair, is absolutely losing it!

That’s not manipulative…that’s not ‘putting himself first’?????

]]> By: Karen https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-152 Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:12:40 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-152 Please excuse my spelling on my comment. I think this comment website has a mind of it’s own, lol.

]]> By: Karen https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-151 Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:10:40 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-151 Walter, you are so wrong. Not all woman are manipulated, I should know, cause I am one of thos women. My x-husband cheated on me for 24 years and I took it. I’m the one that did without..the money my x-husband has spent on all the other woman would make me a millionaire now, and that is the honest truth. After this last affair I finally decided that enough was enough, I divoreced the man I loved cause I could no longer take the physical/verbal abuse-the cheating and lieing. I am not Disabled cause of 13 years of physical abuse..I have a herniated disc and 3.5 broken bones in my neck from the abuse. I was a good woman to my x-husband…I cooked-cleaned-worked and even had sex when I didn’t want too. We have 3 wonderful Sons that he doesn’t want anything to do with…and that is fine with our Sons…which breaks my heart. There are Good Woman out here…I should now, I’m one of them.

]]> By: Walter G https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-150 Fri, 31 Jul 2009 02:00:13 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-150 I strongly share your sentiment about honoring your spouse and the committment but Nick G is on point. Women are manipulative throughout their entire lives. Number one for them is always them.

]]> By: Nick G https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-149 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 22:46:53 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-149 A true measure of a man is one that does not change who he is just because he got married. You can’t tell me that so many guys become yes machines just to keep the piece. What is that saying…Happy wife, happy life! Are you kidding me. You spend your entire life doing for her and agreeing to her every whim…for what? Sex when she wants not when you want. Asking permission to go and do guy stuff. I never argued with my wife for 25 years and it got me nothing but a feeling of being emasculated. The last 5 years has been very different. I speak my mind and do what I feel like I need to do. I take care of my responsibilities but I stopped being a doormat. Now all of a sudden the marriage is in turmoil and ahe cannot understand who I have become. My answer to that is “myself” I have no one to blame but me for letting this happen and I would suggest to each man out there that is contemplating any relationship…be true to who you are and if she can’t accept that then she is not the one. Trust me on this!

]]> By: Kim Shy https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-148 Thu, 30 Jul 2009 19:20:13 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-148 Amen to that.
The true measure of a man is the man that honors his vows. I like that you think that way Ed. :o)

]]> By: Ed https://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/2009/07/24/can-i-stop-the-affair/#comment-147 Mon, 27 Jul 2009 01:53:22 +0000 http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com/blog/?p=21#comment-147 I have always believed, and i still believe now that the true measure of a man is is can keep his promise and obligation. When I married my wife I accepted the obligation o protect, care, love, and love her more until the day I lose my breath, no matter what. I still live by that promise no matter what it takes. That is the only thing that will not change in this world. That is a permanent commitment because it has been blessed by God and God will see me through all these. Thank you

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