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11 Ways Worry Kills Your Marriage

Worry is fretting. Worry is bound by fearful thoughts. Worry is being nervous, uptight or anxious. Worry feels threatened. Worry is a bundle of nerves. This anxiety gets in your way. It becomes a detriment. It only contributes to more … Continue reading

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Marriage Crisis: Get in Control of Your Feelings

I was raised in Northwestern Illinois and the highlight of every summer was the County Fair. On Saturday night thousands would flock to the Fairground Stands to watch the Demolition Derby. In case you are not familiar, a demolition derby … Continue reading

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It’s Frightening to Truly Love

You see, to love someone and allow someone to love you is truly a risk. Loving and being loved in a genuine authentic, calm, I-can-take-a-deep-breath-and-trust-myself-with-you is downright scary for most of us. It truly is! A wise man once said, … Continue reading

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Is the Distancing Spouse a Bad Person?

Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make the marriage or relationship work. You may hear frequently from your spouse or … Continue reading

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How do you Handle Emotional Distance?

These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition. You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do. And, long, long ago, it worked. Your … Continue reading

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Your Sexiness is a Trap

If you are a female, you may carry the weight of believing you must be sexy. You must be provocative. You must look sexy. You must turn him on. Your breasts, you legs, your abs, your rear become the focus … Continue reading

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4 Reasons an Affair or Marital Crisis Kills your Self Esteem

Nothing tears at your self esteem and sense of well being more than a marital crisis. The question is often posed to me by someone in the midst of a painful relationship upheaval: “What did I do wrong?” You assume … Continue reading

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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading

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You Truly Want Love in Your Marriage

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You really want to love and be loved. You truly want love in your marriage. Underneath your aloof exterior, or tough, you-can’t-touch-me act, or your constant but … Continue reading

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Emotional Distance in a Marriage – Personal Needs and Frustration

You are lead to believe, are you not, that one of the primary purposes of marriage or a relationship of significant emotional involvement is to meet personal needs? Once married or in a significant relationship, your partner will meet your … Continue reading

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