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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading

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You are Not a Bad Person

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make … Continue reading

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Distance is a Way to Cope

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… The intent of your pulling away or distancing is not malicious or evil. Your tendency to back away is merely a way for you to cope with … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse: I Must be Romantic or Sexy

You, as the pulling away spouse, may be requested to be more “romantic” or “sexy.” The request may be direct: “I want you to be more romantic or sexy,” or you pick up from the need system of your spouse … Continue reading

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The Distant Spouse: I Don’t want to Talk

Words can control, confuse and hurt. If you are the reluctant spouse, you may have a big problem with “talking.” In our culture a huge emphasis is placed upon “talking.” Those who are most verbose and “communicative” seem to dominate, … Continue reading

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Emotional Distance in a Marriage – Personal Needs and Frustration

You are lead to believe, are you not, that one of the primary purposes of marriage or a relationship of significant emotional involvement is to meet personal needs? Once married or in a significant relationship, your partner will meet your … Continue reading

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Marriage and Loss of Freedom

Here’s the 2nd Key to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other (It might be helpful to share this with your spouse, if s/he is willing to receive.) Key #2: You Need Not Lose your FREEDOM once the “Knot … Continue reading

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Help for the Emotionally Distant Spouse

Keys to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other… You really are NOT a Schmuck If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance and is unsure, I want you to feel better: no … Continue reading

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How To Get Him/Her To “Talk”

Engaging the other typically means, “We gotta talk.” And, “talking” usually means “getting at issues” that are bothering one or the other. It means there is a problem, as in a lack of understanding or lack of intimacy or distance … Continue reading

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