Surviving Infidelity Series: You Gotta Have Faith!!
Whether you decide to stay with your cheating partner, or move on, it can help tremendously to have faith (in some form or another) that this too shall pass. IT IS POSSIBLE for you to emerge a stronger, happier, and more confident person, and maybe even create a stronger, more solid relationship with your partner in the process.
The following story is one woman’s proof that you don’t have to be "religous" to have faith. She discovered that with a little faith, she was able to work through her pain with the help of people she believes she attracted into her life for a specific reason:
To start, my boyfriend of three years cheated on me. We had a long distance love affair. We lived an hour from each other. Children and responsibilities kept us from moving in together. He was the one person in my life that was never going to hurt me that way. We were going to be together forever. Well, he left me for another woman. I did not know it at the time, he told me months later. We always kept in touch. I thought my world was going to end. Sometimes I could barely breathe. I turned to my guardian angels! I am not a religious person, I do not go to church, but I have a strong faith! I could not do anything without sobbing. I didn’t want to do anything. But I literally asked for help from heaven up above, from my angels, not knowing what was happening. Funny thing is I felt the serenity. People came into my life that wanted to talk about it. We all know we shouldn’t talk to family and friends about too much. I believe today my new friend was sent to me to help me deal with all the pain and lonliness. We have since gone our separate ways. I also dove into self help books, videos, the internet, or whatever I could get my hands on. What role did I have in this? Why did I fall for him? I had a lot of whys. In doing so I learned so much about myself, I found myself again, better, stronger! I loved him, as a friend, through it all, but more importantly I found out that I really liked myself. I did not need to accept his behavior. I needed to challenge him to do better. But I could only do this if I was worth it, if I felt I was worth it. I also learned a lot about relationships, and what makes them work. It has been a long road and we continue to fall off, but we pick each other up, wipe ourselves off and get right back on. Yes, we have been back together now for almost another 3 years. I now live 10 minutes away from him, my family is 3 minutes. I don’t know where we will be tomorrow. I only know that what he does has everything to do with him and how he feels about himself. It’s my choice to stay with him and accept his shortcomings or go. I have decided to stay. After all, he is trying! And sometimes I know how hard that is for him. I still ask and seek the guidance of my guardians. They are with me all the time. And as you can see I still seek the knowledge to better our relationship and take it to the next level. Scary, yes! But fear is the root of all unhappiness! And Yes, He still makes my heart flutter every time he walks into the room. You just have to have a little faith! Thanks for all you advice, letters, etc.
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