Surviving Infidelity Series: Turing to God for Peace, Stength and Guidance
The discovery of an unfaithful partner is a devastating blow for most. Many don't know who to turn to, they feel alone...completely alone. For some, turning to "God" can create a great deal of peace and strength within those suffering from the pain of infidelity.
When I found out that my wife had an affair with my best friend for 3 months, I turned to Jesus Christ, and really found a sense of peace through Him. I began to make some changes in my life that I realized were lacking--especially taking responsibility for my own faults, not hers. I took as much time as necessary to heal within myself by staying true to me. What I found out was that by having that peace through God, I was able to heal because I realized that someone (my Lord) loved me for who I was.
The first few days after I discovered that my husband had an extramarital affair, I was shocked and numbed at the same time. I did not know how to react or respond. I felt torn and betrayed deep inside and I felt like I was second best. I prayed about it and asked the Lord to help me forgive my husband completely and that I would be able to forget as well. My husband cried and told me that he cannot bear the thought of losing and that he still loves very much. I forgave him. I tried to spend more time with my children and my family, although they did not really know what happened, they realized that something was wrong and they supported me right through. I have even taken the time to make sure that I look good and beautiful at all times, even when I am at home. It makes me feel good as well! I try to forget what has happened and I am slowly moving on now. What kept me going was my continuous prayer every day that God will give the heart to forgive and the peace of mind that I need. I am surviving the affair.
