Surviving Infidelity series: Staying strong for the kids
Dealing with adultery can generate strong, and sometimes, uncontrollable emotions. Find out how these two people were able to stay strong for their children.
I cried for what seemed like forever... but at the end of the day, I realized my kids needed me now more than forever... I cried while I drove my car and they were in the back in their car seats... I cried when they went to bed at night, and i cried to my family and friends. If it weren't for them, I don't know how I would have made it through. Of course, the affair took it's course and now he is back trying to rebuild the marriage... Unfortunately, I haven't decided yet if it is repairable as his actions at times are questionable. He still makes himself his priority but I know inside now, that this affair has made me stronger. I know that if he wants this marraige and to keep his family together, he needs to know that we can survive without him. I will no longer take a back seat (or my kids) to his social life if that is what he wants then he can have it, w/o me or the kids. If he wants his marriage (which i am willing to repair if he can overcome his narcssism w/o me having to tell him so) then we can work on it. But, now I know whether it be this marraige or a future relationship, I deserve just as much if not more than a man gives himself... Selfishness on his part lost the respect of many people close to him, if we decide to part ways, I know I can hold my head high and proud that I maintained my marriage vows, and that he chose his own selfish needs over his wife and children's. Sad but true. Good luck to us all, it is emotionally heart wrenching, but we will survive and make it through each day. I do recommend reading by Anne Bercht "My husband's affair was the best thing that ever happened to me", she gets the emotions of being betrayed exact.
Hello, I relate so much to the crying, not eating, couldnt work, it was so hard he walked out 1 week before Christmas, my friends and family helped so much, i went through what did i do wrong, I thought I wasent good enough, pretty enough, but it dawned on me one day as i looked in the mirror, look at what im letting him do to me, the weight i lost, the kids trying to cheer me up, it was because of my kids, i didnt want them to see me like that any more, I took back my life, they asked questions I told the children the truth about there dads other woman, i fought for my life and my childrens life not to give up, then it got harder there dad my husband died in a car accident on Fathers day, my youngest daughter was there spending the day with her dad for Fathers day, she wasent in the car, thank god, Through him leaving and his death, Im a very strong woman, It has shown my children you can make it through anything, as long as you have a support system, and for me that was my children
