Surviving Infidelity Series: Forgiveness, Managing Depression and Investigator Gets the Truth

Consider surviving the affair from the perspective of these readers:

When I discovered the infidelity I need to call a friend of mine who is also a Christian like me, I really believed that she can give me good advice. I needed to voice out to her what I was feeling that time, Of course I cried....I think that by doing so, it releases some pressure and pain from within you. My friend just told me to pray and pray and read the Bible and listen to what GOd is telling me from His very words. I did that, I thank God for giving me strength and faith with the trials I was facing. Till one day, about less than 2 weeks of not talking to my husband, he finally asked for forgiveness and told me that he doesn't want to lose me and his kids and that he would like to start all over again. I forgave him and now we are doing great!

First, crying, drinking some, & depression. That didn't help much, but it was all I could manage at the time. What was most helpful in the weeks following was shopping, exercising, talking with someone I trust, praying about it, spending time to make myself feel more attractive, reading Dr. Huizenga's book & uplifting emails, reading other books of help on the subject, and deciding that I would not let myself continue to be treated that way. I am still having some difficulty knowing whether I can trust again because I just don't know what is truth or lies anymore (supposedly, it's over between them). I just live each day in hopes that it will continue to get better. If I find out it's not, I think I will be strong enough to end the marriage and go on with my life. I will at least know that I have tried, but I also know that I do not deserve to continue to live in a marriage where I feel I have to compete with another person. I am who I am, and that is good enough. I will not try to change to be someone else.

She kept lying and lying, but with all the clues, I couldn't believe her. But I had no solid proof. So I hired a private investigator who got the pictures, times, dates, etc. knowing the truth for sure has helped me a lot to get over the pain.