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The First Step in Surviving Infidelity From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink Dr. Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, here. If you are like others, if you are normal, you are a Basket Case once you discover the infidelity in your marriage. It feels devastating, does it not? My experience in working clinically with thousands since 1981 tells me that only the death of a child is worse. Your heart feels ripped out, you can you hardly breathe and you are tormented by ugly thoughts and images 24/7 because:
When a Basket Case, You are Ineffective in Dealing with Your Cheating Spouse You either wimp out in fear, try to appease or reactively accost him/her.You most likely will try with fervor a few of the "12 Unattractive, Ugly, Typical Tactics Most People use to Prolong the Affair and Guarantee Their Own Misery" I outline in the Appendix of my first book, "Break Free From the Affair." In reality you push your cheating partner and his/her lover closer together. You are totally ineffective when it comes to stopping the affair or getting the kind of response you truly want from him/her. Your Cheating Spouse WILL Shift from the OP (other person) to YOU When You Become Your Own Hero Please know that as bad as it may feel and as hopeless as it may seem right now, the potential and opportunity for healing is just as great. Yes, the infidelity, although a monumental crisis, offers you a new life and new relationship. As I say, "Gold is refined through intense heat!" You can become your own hero. You can take the steps that restore your confidence and personal power. Your friends and family will shake their heads in amazement as you weather this storm. And, most importantly, there's a great chance your cheating spouse's jaw will drop and s/he will do some head scratching and fretting - shifting the focus away from the op (other person) onto you. But...You MUST Take that First Step You say, "Sounds good! But, how do I get there?' I wrote my first ebook on infidelity "Break Free From the Affair" back in 2002 and it's been a HUGE seller. All printed copies were soon sold out. The core of the ebook is identifying the type of affair, (from 7 unique kinds,) employing a strategy that fits that type of affair and effectively using skills and tactics to influence and change the course of the infidelity. Over the years I've received a ton of great feedback from readers. And, it is extremely gratifying to read that for many the comfort, relief and confidence emerged almost immediately. NOW it Makes Sense Literally hundreds of readers responded something like this, "Now it makes sense. You describe exactly what's happening. It's amazing! It's like you are a fly on our wall. It's clear! I now know it's not my problem!" And THEN, and only THEN, did they tell me that they went ahead and were thrilled with the outcomes of the new strategies and tactics they used. Why were their strategies and tactics effective? Regaining the Calm, Confidence and Poise After reading my material they were able to implement the strategies and tactics with calm, confidence, poise and determination. (They were able to clear the internal "noise" and use a skill I teach called, charging neutral.) Many stopped immediately doing the "12 Unattractive, Ugly, Typical Tactics Most People use to Prolong the Affair and Guarantee Their Own Misery" I warned them about and began employing the 7 Powerful Tactics to Break Free From the Affair. (outlined in the appendix of Break Free From the Affair.)
You Must Unlearn the Garbage You are Subtly Taught About Infidelity You see, I believe you were brainwashed about infidelity. And, this brainwashing stirs in you, upon encountering infidelity, tremendous pain, fear and feelings of inadequacy. Want examples? Sure. Here are a few concepts that you and (your children) learn about infidelity through media, examples, family, friends, etc. over the years:
My new e-book "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Spouse Blink" is exclusively devoted to debunking these myths and misunderstandings about infidelity. This is not a simple process. Our beliefs about infidelity, our sexuality, marriage and relationships are deeply engrained.
Reshaping Your Thinking about Infidelity Restores Your Personal Power and Gives Effectiveness to Act I go to great lengths to reshape your thinking and understanding of infidelity. And, this is not a head trip. This is not an academic book. This is a practical, insightful, easy-to-read book that offers comfort and relief. It also contains stories and input from 122 people who, just like you, felt the devastation of infidelity and then began to make the shifts to break them free and impact powerfully and effectively their lives and relationships. And, that's what I want for you - to find comfort and inner strength so you can get on EFFECTIVELY in confronting the infidelity in your relationship. And, once you begin to see infidelity for what it really is - an act of temporary insanity - you feel relief and are comforted. Then you move from being a Basket Case to doing exactly what you need to do to survive and then thrive through the infidelity experience. THEN you dig into the 7 types of affairs, plan your strategy and tactics and begin implementing with power, confidence and effectiveness. Here's some of what you will learn in "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink:"
Top 10 Questions Most Ask When Confronted with Infidelity When slammed with infidelity, you have a torrent of questions running through your mind - common questions asked by many. In "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink" I've categories those questions and provide succinct answers that apply to most situations. Do you ask any of these:
The Questions you SHOULD Ask to move from Basket Case to Personal Power Because there is so much misinformation and underlying confusion about infidelity the questions you SHOULD be asking to get you on the right track are absent. To help you move, to help you find your comfort so you can pursue a direction, I've answered the top 10 questions you SHOULD ask in "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink:"
The impetus to move from Basket Case to a Position of personal power and leverage is accelerated by knowing that others did it before. And, not only knowing that they did it, but HOW they did it. The faithful users (122 of them!) of my materials graciously consented to take time to tell their stories in "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink." In short story form they tell of significant shifts that took place with themselves or with their spouse that lead to healing and change. These stories are worth their weight in gold.
Take the First Step... I want you to take the first step. You need not be a Basket Case. You can find the comfort and relief you so desperately want and need beginning right now. And, once you feel that comfort flowing through your body, your mind will clear and you embark upon a new path of healing, restoration and intentional change. (And, s/he will notice!) I want you to order "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink right" now and embark on that path. And, when you get "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink" you also get as a bonus:
Please know that this web site is not a hobby for me. I closed my private practice (face to face counseling with couples and individuals) in 2002 to dedicate all of my time and energy to develop this site, create practical and hard-hitting materials, research and coach only in the realm of infidelity. (From 20 years of private practice I knew there was little good information and help in that specific area.) This is my passion. This is my love. This is what I do best. The material I produce is top of the line. (I say this not to brag but tremendous feedback affirms this. As well, I've earned it - with high priced degrees, hundreds of hours of supervision and years of clinical experience under my belt.) And so, you get a bargain. I don't need to remind you that face-to-face therapy would cost you $120 - $150 per 45 minutes with a minimum of 10 sessions before you see results - if then. You do the math. Comfort, Direction and Hope for 3 Months For only $39.95 you begin to swipe away your pain, fear and confusion. You clear your emotional deck and prepare to ACT EFFECTIVELY. I want you to know that I see your purchase of "The First Step in Surviving Infidelity - From Basket Case to Making Your Cheating Spouse Blink" as a beginning relationship for us. I am here for you. I will guide you to resources, places of support and other materials that will help immensely along your journey. And, I attempt to interject a little humor at times. :) Humor often is very healing! I promise to be there for you more fully during the coming months. (My vast experience with infidelity indicates that within 3 months you will feel differently, have a vastly different perspective on your situation and clarity will emerge with your cheating spouse.) Ok, so I think you will get the best. What if you think I'm full of it? Money Back Guarantee - 30 Day Trial Period
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I look forward to working with you. And... wish you the best, Bob Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach
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