Top 10 Q&As for Surviving Infidelity
Below please find the top 5 questions that most people ask when facing infidelity or an extramarital affair. These Q&As are a part of a video series by Dr. Bob Huizenga – the Infidelity Coach.
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Surviving Infidelity Top 10 Questions
I’m creating a video series on The Top 10 Questions People Ask and the Top 10 Questions People SHOULD Ask on Surviving Infidelity.
I’m listing the first 6 below, which are on my blog. Choose which video you want to watch (you certainly can view more than one!) and if you feel compelled to comment, or something resonates with you, make sure you leave a comment below the video.
Again, I’m continually impressed by what you learn from each other and the degree to which reading others’ comments can generate hope for healing and change.
Here’s the first video…
1. How Long Will the Pain Last?
2. How Do I Get Rid of the Pain?
So… the pain is there. Some think it will never go away. Others surviving infidelity feel the pain ebb away or dramatically change under particular conditions.
Facing the pain of infidelity will test your spirit.
In this second video in the Surviving Infidelity Top 10 Q&A, Dr. Huizenga presents 5 ways to face the pain and minimize its power.
The good ole kitchen timer does the trick for some surviving an affair.
3. Can I Stop the Affair?
This is the third video in the Surviving Infidelity Q&A Series by Dr. Huizenga – the infidelity coach.
Can you stop the affair? Dr. Huizenga emphatically says NO! And, there are reasons why you don’t want to stop the affair.
But, there are ways to “influence” the progression of the affair and this has much more power.
4. How Do I Get Him/Her to Talk?
Top 10 Q&A Surviving Infidelity Series by Dr. Huizenga – The Infidelity Coach.
Do you want him/her to talk more? Dr. Huizenga answers this frequently asked question in the Surviving Infidelity Series.
Key points on communication in surviving an affair:
What do you want him/her to talk about?
Does talking mean assurance?
3 Reasons why the cheating spouse clams up.
3 tips on opening lines of communication.
5. Do I Confront the OP?
In this 5th video of the Surviving Infidelity Series, I share my surprising research results on the question: Do I Confront the OP (Other Person)?
I give observations on how particular people find the confrontation helpful and those would be better refraining from the confrontation.
Various tips are given on confrontation, if that is your choice.
And, I examine confronting the other person in light of types of infidelity, specifically the “I Don’t Want to Say No,” “I Fell out of Love…and just love being in love,” and the “I Need to Prove my Desirability” types of affairs.
6. How Do I Get Rid of the Distrubing Images?
Terribly negative and disturbing images and thoughts may bombard you after the discovery of the infidelity in your marriage.
Learn why “trying to get rid of the images” usually doesn’t work.
Learn why it is important to understand the origin of the disturbing images and thoughts.
Discover THE question you can ask yourself to diminish the intensity of the images and thoughts.
Finally, a couple tips are given to help with the thoughts and images including the use of EMDR.
