Learn why the Affair or Infidelity is NOT Your Fault
The infidelity or extramarital affair is not the fault of the “wounded” spouse. Discover how this shift in your thinking can accelerate the healing process and perhaps save your marriage.
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My Thinking is Very Different
I think differently. I know that. It is a gift…most times. My thinking doesn’t follow the crowd. It is often what most others call, “on the edge.”
And, that type of thinking, I find, is exactly what most people facing infidelity appreciate.
Why? Because traditional thinking has assumptions about people and about relationships that don’t work at best and perpetuate injury at worst.
I explain that further in my blog as I offer a video I came across by a psychologist that presents a traditional way of looking at emotional infidelity that I believe causes more harm than good.
Check out my blog on this topic…if you haven’t already.
Also, leave a comment. Others will appreciate your input.
The Ugly Truth
Ok. Here’s an ugly truth: Not every infidelity story ends happily ever after for the marriage.
Some marriages are beyond repair.
Some who cheat and betray never turn from their path of obsession with their own personal needs or covert inadequacies and never become able to enter intimately into a relationship of investment.
Sad, but true.
Let me be a little more specific.
Some who engage in an “I Don’t Want to Say No” affair never acknowledge their narcissism.
Some who engage in the “I Can’t Say No” affair never confront their compulsions and addictions and their lives spiral toward self-delusion and destruction.
Some who engage in “I Fell Out of Love… and just love being in love” flit from one romantic high to another. (However, this is the exception rather than the rule. These people often move beyond their attempts at adolescent reconstruction and enter into healthy relationships.)
Some who engage in “I Want to Get Back at Him/Her” never purge their lives of their rage.
Some who engage in “I Want to Be Close to Someone…but can’t stand intimacy” continue to live lives of stark emotional deprivation and inner unacknowledged turmoil.
You get the idea.
So, I want you to be prepared if worse comes to worse.
I know, I know. This may difficult to even consider, but please, give it some thought – especially if you are in an abusive relationship.
I’ve found a powerful and practical resource that can guide you in process of preparing to leave the destructive relationship. (And, it always pays to be prepared.)
(This resource is written specifically for women. But, men, don’t write it off. If you are in an abusive relationship and it may end, this is for YOU as well.)
Here are some important questions for you to consider:
- Are you prepared for the unstoppable chain of events that will follow the break up of your marriage?
- Do you have money on hand to hire a lawyer to represent you, to protect and keep you and your children safe?
- How are you going to pay the bills during the divorce process?
- Are you making enough money to handle the house payments alone if your husband/wife leaves you?
- Do you have any idea how you will support yourself (and your children) without any financial assistance?
If you answered “No” to any of these questions you NEED access to the powerful information in a practical new resource I just found…
I recently ran across a tremendous resource for helping you prepare for and protect yourself during a divorce.
This eye-opening book called, “Divorce Secrets: What Every Woman Should Know”, was written by Cathi Adams. Cathi shares her powerful step-by-step plan that she used to successfully escape her unhappy marriage (while keeping her son, house AND not having to reduce her lifestyle.)
Take a look at just a handful of the raving reviews:
An Abundance of Good Solid Financial Information.
“Although I am not even married I am interested in financial information so I ordered your book. I found it extremely interesting and informative. I think you should offer it to everyone – not just woman thinking of divorce.
You have an abundance of good, solid financial information. Thank you for helping me become more financially savvy!”
– Pat,
New York, NY
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I Learned So Much!
“I loved your book. I read it from start to finish in one sitting. I could not put it down! It was very interesting, inspirational, and positive. I learned so much! Thank you.”
– Tiffany,
Arizona
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I Hope My Wife Never Reads It!
“Very informative! I read your book based on curiosity. I was impressed. Good job! You should make this available for men. ( I hope my wife never reads it!)”
– Jim,
Florida
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You Are Doing A Wonderful Service For Women!
“Cathi, You are doing a wonderful service for women! Great book! I really enjoyed it.”
– Barbara,
New York
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I Laughed Out Loud…
Now I Know What I Have To Do.
“Great information. I like the way you bring in humor to this terrible subject. I laughed out loud at certain parts. I know what I have to do now. Thanks.”
– Phyliss,
Florida
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All the best,
Bob
