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I assume you are like 1,000s of others jolted by the affair, asking these questions: (Substitute the word she for he if you would like.

In 5 minutes I will put on your computer screen the answers, strategies and never-before-published knowledge base you MUST have to:

Don't leave the affair to chance. Don't wait for "time to heal." Don't waste time with simplistic suggestions or vague generalities. Don't act out of desperation.

Use my 20 plus years of research, study, experience and therapeutic work with thousands of people to act with purpose and confidence, knowing EXACTLY what you need to do to break free from the affair.

They try harder...to tolerate. They swallow….hard. They wimp out and put up with all kinds of crap. (Sorry about the language, but I assume you have thought worse.) They hope time will cure and he will come to his senses.

Often they try harder by being really nice - meeting his needs; it's called "working on the marriage." Give him what he always said he wanted and win him back.

Doesn't work. You prostitute your integrity…and deep down you know it.. and resent it. As well, you feel like you are competing with the OP (other person.)

If he does stop the affair and "comes back" it is out of guilt or pity and what do you really have then?

Others Go on the attack. Plead. Beg. Become righteous. Explode every so often. Threaten. Become depressed. Enlist the help of others. Use guilt. Use the children. Talk. Talk. Talk. Desperately make promises.

Doesn't work either. You don't have to become a basket case; it's no fun. And if he does "come back" it's out of coercion. Don't you want to be wanted rather than have him feel like he must be with you because you bullied him?

Would you like a recipe, a step-by-step guide to help you break through the confusion and fear? Would you like to know the right words to say and when to say them so that they have the maximum impact? Do you want to find a way to stay connected, yet not push him away?

I have that just for you. My E-book, coming out of my 23 years of therapy private practice, gives you in-depth, proven and practical steps used effectively by hundreds of couples in the midst of marital infidelity. This e-book comes straight from the lives of those who have been there, done that. Real people, like you, trying to break free.

Once you have the knowledge, once you understand the person(s), once you see the patterns, it all makes sense.

How to Increase the Odds of Saving the Marriage, If that's What You Really Want To Do

Once you see the larger picture and have gathered yourself emotionally, it's time to act.

In the E-book I provide an outline of exactly what action you can take for each kind of affair. I put words into your mouth, giving you phrases you can use with your partner that fit exactly your situation.

With each kind of affair I list skills that work best with that affair and increase your chances for making significant change.

You get 16 skills that you easily learn and apply to the 7 different affairs: (you will only need to learn and apply those skills applicable to the affair facing you. I'll show you the one(s) that will work best for you.)

You will learn when and how to send messages, use silence, get to the real commitment, leap your partner, look for upset, contextualize, peel away layers to the truth, and gap the goal, to name a few.

Don't Allow this to go on for 2- 4 Years,
so I'm Making a Request of You…

Most studies indicate that if you go it alone, it takes 2 - 4 years to work through and resolve the affair, whether you stay married or not. Yes, you read that right. But, you want the agony to end today or yesterday, don't you? Well, it won't…and there are no magic wands to make that happen.

But, and this is a huge but, it NEED NOT take 2-4 years.

Here's what I want you to do: Make a personal commitment to use the next 6 months to learn everything you can about infidelity and the affair facing you. Gather your strength and courage and begin using new skills to stop the affair and develop the kind of life and relationship you REALLY want.

Once Your Strategies Work and Your Spouse Retreats From the Affair, You Tackle Saving the Marriage

Most Cheating Spouses Know Their Cheating is a Slippery Slope

Believe me when I say (after working with thousands of infidelity infected couples since 1981) that most (I would guess 80%) of the cheating spouses know deep in their heart that the affair will not last and is not what they REALLY want. Some actually (those that tend to give excessive power to the opposite sex) are looking for a way out... a way to end it without too much egg on their face.

The other 20% are often a lost cause - too deeply stuck in their destructive and self defeating personality patterns with little self awareness of their underlying thoughts and feelings and a lack the capacity to objectify their behavior.

If you believe your cheating spouse is one of the 80% I've created a program for you and him/her called "Marriage Makeover."

"Marriage Makeover" is Unique in that it Expressly Forbids Either to "Work on the Marriage."

"Working on" the relationship sounds awful, doesn't it? And it often is. But we are told or it is implied in therapy and from others that relationships need to be worked on. It takes effort that seems to border on drudgery.

Here's the story of Bill and Diane.

Bill and Diane Were Bone-Tired Weary of "Working on the Marriage"

A colleague was having a terrible time with Bill and Diane in marriage therapy. This couple had gone through some very difficult times (Bill had been seeing another woman.) The OP (other person) was legitimately and in all ways out of the picture and they were both committed to "working on the relationship."

However, Diane and Bill were having a terribly frightful time making headway. My therapist colleague finally out of desperation referred them to me, hoping I could see them through the impasse.

Bill and Diane walked through my door, took a seat and the session began. Both told me they truly wanted a better relationship and were working hard to make it happen. It was sincere.

Diane described what she would do when he came home after work, trying to make Bill comfortable, affirmed and welcome. Bill explained how he tried to talk more, be present for her and meet her needs. Bill listed 3-4 ways in which he was trying to make her feel more desirable and loved. Each was hanging on the other's words.

In addition to a rather large aura of tension that surrounded them, the Bill and Diane exuded a deep sense of weariness. They were exhausted. Emotionally they were spent. There was little life in each of them and in the relationship.

They looked at me as if, "OK, the last therapist tried her bag of tricks to make us better. And we worked diligently on every one of them. What do you suggest we do to make this better?"

So, I said, "For one week, from the moment you leave this office to the moment you walk through that door next week, I do NOT want you to work on the relationship. I don't want you to think about your relationship or marriage, or the other person.

Just drop it!"

Bill and Diane looked a little confused, but out their weariness, implied, "OK."

They walked through the door the following week smiling, light, like a breath of fresh clean air sweeping through my office.

Diane, especially, thanked me profusely for giving her permission not to "work" on the relationship. They both were given the emotional bandwidth to declare themselves and in that, found an immeasurable sense of relief and freedom.

This wider bandwidth paradoxically cemented the relationship and replaced the fear and tension with joy.

I saw them for 3-4 more sessions and they were happily on their way.

Now, why did this work?

This may surprise you, but often, trying to please the other person (meet his/her needs), trying to create intimacy, being romantic, doing things for him/her, constantly aware of his presence (or lack of it) is like globing on the other person, can be a tremendous strain and drain, feels artificial, and eventually spurns frustration and resentment.

"Marriage Makeover" forgoes that route and instead gives tools to help each declare him/herself in powerful accurate, authentic ways.

"Marriage Makeover" contains an extensive practical 2 year personal foundation program. The program has proven to be a life altering tool for individuals as well as couples.

No globing. Instead, the truth: Here I am. This is who I am. Tell me about you, if you choose.

This folks, is the path to deep rich intimacy.

Oh, one more thing.

Get Both of You on the Same Page

Have you noticed that in almost ALL relationships one is anxious and ready to get at it - to work on the relationship - and the other holds back, is more reluctant and needs a little coaxing?

"Marriage Makeover" in its unique theory and practice, short circuits this tendency.

In reality, I designed "Marriage Makeover" specifically for men, who are often pragmatic problem solvers, who disdain the "feelings" and wooo-whooo stuff and who shy from "let's talk about feelings and the relationship. (Sorry, if this stereotype offended, but their is a kernel of truth in it.)

"Marriage Makeover:"

Is elegantly simple, straight-forward with minimal psycho babble or "touchy-feely stuff."
Levels the playing field. Whomever is more talkative, insightful, relationship-oriented is NOT in a one-up position.
Helps you build trust slowly but surely. You will feel safe as you address highly important issues.
Begins from areas of personal motivation. Each starts with than issue that is important for him/her.
Is win-win. Each person is strengthened and empowered. The strength and power of the relationship is a secondary outcome.
Helps avoid the "swirl" or predictable negative ways of feeling and acting with each other.
Helps create a more "natural" way for those in close proximity (living with each other or separated but connected in other ways) to manage life together.
Eliminates judgments and put downs.
Moves beyond need-meeting, merely accommodating the OP, being nice, "stuffing."
Goes beyond confrontation, blow ups, say-it-like-it-is, dumping, getting-it-all-out, cathartic, or dealing with feelings.
Goes beyond making amends, saying I'm sorry, expecting I'm sorry, rehashing the past, making promises that it will never happen again.

As A Madeover Couple:

You will experience a deepening intimacy and know how to grow it.
You will feel more relaxed and at ease around each other.
You will eradicate unhealthy forms of conflict.
You will face problems head on and address them with less fear.
You will share a mutual pride in each other.
Attract friends, family and an environment that best nurtures the relationship and each person.
You will learn how to manage the day to day chores of life more easily.
You will parent more effortlessly and your growing relationship will have a
positive ripple effect upon your children.
You will continue to grow the sexual relationship and find points of mutual
satisfaction

Marriage Makeover is especially helpful for these types of affairs:

1. I Need to Prove My Desirability - once great listening takes place

2. I Need to Get Back at Him/Her - once the resentment is released

3. I Can't Say No - once bottom is hit

4. I Want to be Close to Someone...but can't stand intimacy - once tension is broken

Marriage Makeover is LESS helpful for these types of affairs:

1. My Marriage Made Me Do It - reluctance to assume responsibility for self

2. I Don't Want to Say No - "beneath" him/her, waste of time

3. I Fell out of Love...and just love being in love - no patience for introspection and "heavy" stuff

You are Not Alone. The Voices of These 19 Others Will Guide and Comfort

I've created 10 Live Taped Coaching Sessions that I want you to have.

You may listen to these tapes online or download onto your mp3 player.

Others have found them invaluable in guiding them through the initial phases of facing infidelity

Hear 19 Others Talk to Me about Obvious-yet-overlooked Secrets that Propel Them From Feeling Hopeless to Hopeful

Here are just a few of the 19 people you will meet who will show you the way. You will meet:

Fiona who feels like she is competing with a 29 year old Blond Bombshell
Sue who emerged out of a 3 week crying jag and meltdown with an indescribable peace and confidence
Lisa who wonders if she can recapture the married bliss of previous years
John who wonders how to deal with his wife's crazy and bizarre behavior
Marcie who in her confusion and overwhelm wonders if she should date
Erin who despondently asks if she will ever get him to talk
John and how he can pull the plug when he cares for her so much
and more

Do You Feel Like You are Competing with a 29 Year Old Ex-Model Blonde Bombshell?

Well, Fiona was...literally.

The men in the office drooled over and wanted this 29 year old flirtatious ex-model sexy blond bombshell.

Fiona's husband got her.

When confronted by Fiona, he was bright enough to chose his marriage with Fiona.

Although Fiona described herself as attractive, she confided in me that she felt devastatingly inadequate. (She thought of dying her hair blonde... but no...)

How could she ever be enough for him?

And, what if another sexy bombshell, blond, brunette or otherwise, crossed his path?

She worked furiously trying to pull from him that she, Fiona, WAS enough and this would NEVER happen again.

And, of course, she was not satisfied with his response.

She felt helpless. She had worked hard at building the marriage, meeting his needs, doing what she believed was vital for a good marital foundation and he STILL fooled around. What was wrong with this picture?

Shaky and unsure of herself, what if she out of her pain and desperation pushed... and he bolted?

I made a powerful and key statement that shook Fiona.

It was the beginning of her turn-around. It opened a new world. She began to see new possibilities to regain confidence and to create true intimacy in her marriage.

We spent the last 5 minutes of the session crafting ways she could use this new found strategy.

Here are some comments from those who resonated with Fiona:

I don't know Fiona personally but I have this strong feeling to be near her and hug her. When I was in her position I needed compassion from people who had the same experience, the others would feel with you, but would never understand the pain you suffer.

This really DID sound like my own partner and his behavior, and confirmed my thoughts that his affair was a Type 7. He seems to have a need to have secret hiding places within himself that are kept from me.

The tape was wonderful in that it shows how Fiona can tap into her own feelings and sort out what she wants to re-empower herself rather than react or stay stuck in fear or blame of the betraying husband. It also was great to her how you both brainstorm together to refine the approach of repairing the relationship so that it was most conducive to their relationship rather than throwing some "fix-it" rule at the guy that is already in a touchy situation. Your open and supportive style of counseling is so soothing and flexible and applicable to everyone that it really helped me still process some of the bad stuff that I still have happening because of betrayal scars. Thanks again for being such a cool and wise therapist that empowers rather than instructs!!!

Discover Tremendous Relief Once You Stop Paddling so Hard (Sue will let you know how she did it)

Over the past 2 plus decades I've worked with thousands of people fighting with infidelity. And, yes, I mean fighting. I mean struggling. I mean going through agony. I mean non-stop worry. I mean the wheels are turning day and night, trying to find a way through this mess.

It's like you are thrown into a raging river or stream.

You believe you must paddle up that stream to find what you want. And so you grab the oars and you paddle.

How can I get him/her to stop the affair? You paddle feverishly.

What is s/he doing? Where is s/he? You paddle harder.

Where did this go wrong? Keep on paddling.

How can I meet his/her needs so s/he reciprocates? Paddle. Paddle.

I'll keep confronting him/her. Paddle. Splash Splash

You use every ounce of strength to keep moving - upstream.

Your soul aches near exhaustion, you feel your heart pounding, never seeing the end, never finding the relief and hope you really want.

Consistently feeling disappointment.

Fried with frustration.

But, you keep paddling, trying to persuade, trying to find the magic formula that will get him/her to turn around, that will change your situation. Your boat goes nowhere. You want to collapse into powerless exhaustion. And, yet that's all you know.

Will the pain and constant effort to overcome that pain end?

Yes, it will.

My Session with Sue is a Classic. If you want to hear within 15 minutes the process of going from emotional spentness to letting go of the oars and then experience a PROFOUND sense of OKness and peace listen to this tape.

My session with Sue is a classic. If you want to hear within 15 minutes the process of going from emotional spentness, to letting go of the oars and then experiencing a PROFOUND sense of OKness and peace, listen to this tape.

This session is priceless!

It takes courage to face the crud. You hear Sue and her experience of hitting the wall - the 3 week crying jag.

These tears were different than the tears/pain felt upon discovery of the affair. They had a different flavor and different purpose.

She knew she could not run away from these tears. If she did, they would only appear later, perhaps in more powerful destructive forms.

Was this "work" for Sue?
Did she invite these tears or did they just happen?
Did she have any control over them?
How did she break through?
What was on the other side?

Sue addresses these questions in the tape.

Also, as you listen, hear her insightful comments about her desire to yell and scream, make knee-jerk decisions and take action she might regret. (This has great application, in all affairs except perhaps #2: "I Don't Want to Say No.") See Break Free From the Affair for the characteristics of the 7 kinds of affairs.

If you listen closely you will hear four powerful strategies that Sue used and you can intentionally use as well to break through and break free.

Rather than summarizing them here, I want you to hear Sue describe them. You will enjoy her words, her wisdom and how she conveys their power.

Sue talks about the importance of waiting and the stages of waiting. Three periods of waiting:

1. Waiting for her crazy husband to change. (waste of time, but perhaps the first phase or stage of coping with infidelity)

2. Waiting for herself to be comfortable with her before she acted. (Now this is a challenge, but well worth the struggle)

3. Waiting for the process to complete. (Sue is now waiting to see what growth and decisions her husband will make. She has a timeline of a few weeks [not months or years] to wait. If he continues down a path with the OP she will file for divorce. However, she is confident he is growing toward her and the marriage. Recent conversations and his changing behavior indicate so.) Sue can now wait with confidence, purpose and calmness after breaking through the wall of pain.

Do you want to predict your future? Sue's future, her capacity to move gracefully (well, I'm not sure she thought it was graceful all the time) and intentionally through the infidelity process can be yours.

You can learn more from her than you could by reading all the books written on infidelity.

The session with Sue was a gift, for her, for me and can be for you!

Clear the Cobwebs, Get a Clear Picture, See the Issues Rather than Feel Them

Here's a very common dilemma. It's John's dilemma from another taped session.

John is in the midst of the decision making process:

Should I stay or should I go?
Should I hang in there and try or should I cut my loses and file?
When will the decision be clear?

John describes his wife as embroiled in a consistent and rigid pattern of behavior. She continued to disregard him, project blame onto him, experience difficulty nurturing her children and continue her affair.

There appeared to be little remorse. Little self-awareness. Little effort to work toward resolution. She was locked tightly into destructive patterns.

Her episodes of destructive behavior were also frequent and ongoing. She would shift radically between anger/rage and depression. She moved ahead full speed without much thought for the consequences of her actions.

As well, John describes aspects of distorted thinking which were deeply engrained. She, in essence, was living in her own perilous world.

His wife exhibits persistent, locked-in, terribly destructive behaviors. She's heavily involved in a combination of "I Need to Prove My Desirability" and "My Marriage Made Me Do It" affairs.

John's friends and family are telling him to cut his losses and file.

And yet, John hangs on. It is terribly difficult to let go, isn't it?

Hear John talk about his decision making process and getting at the eventual criteria which will decide whether he will stay or go.

If you are in a similar situation, you truly are not alone. Here are just a few comments from those who listened to the tape with John and me:

Hearing John's struggle to know what to do and think makes me realize that emotional survival can be achieved through strategy...I do not only need to be reactive to everything my husband says and does b. I am encouraged to learn that John's work with his relationship with his children is similar to the focus that I have taken...and I feel like I am in many ways "the winner" in this awful mess, where before, I thought I certainly had lost everything..

The behavior John describes is "uncannily" like my husband's behavior. I can identify so strongly with John's feelings.

For me... there is in this tape a sense of "wow... him too". As he lets go... so do I. It is where I am now. 20 years... willing to let it fly free. I love my husband, and do not want the divorce he demands. Same with this man. Yet, as he is recognizing... this is not kind to self. Perhaps not kind to his spouse. Certainly, this is not the way to live a life.

The fact that i am 'listening' to a real life experience, the thoughts and emotions of a person that undergoes the same pain gives me great relief as opposed to 'reading'. It is like a person talking to you.

It reminds me that this is a universal problem. I am not the only one who got caught up in such a situation. There is life and healing. Rational and thought out decisions bringing step by step change is the path to resolution.

I never thought I would say that it is helpful to hear someone else in the same situation with the question: How do I let go? but, today it helps. It is such an uphill battle, doing all the healing on your own with a person who refuses to take any responsibility. Although I hate to hear someone else in so much pain similar to mine there is no one else in my life who really `gets it`. How do you let go?

Victim No Longer! Squirming No More!

It's D-Day (day of discovery) and you feel overwhelmingly betrayed and victimized. You feel robbed, violated, discounted and thrown away. Ugh!

You cast your power onto him/her. Your gaze is incessantly on him/her:

What is she doing?
Will s/he end this?
Does s/he truly love me?
Is this temporary?
When will s/he come to his/her senses?

You reach out for affirmation, for input, for SOMETHING from him/her. You squirm!

The power of these tapes will enable you to do what I call "charge neutral." When you do that s/he wonders what in the world you are up to. S/he will begin to squirm!

You reclaim your dignity and power. You begin the path to creating a new relationship and a new you. You will never go back. You will NEVER want to go back.

You have a smorgasbord of topics, some of which will apply DIRECTLY to your situation. Other sessions will inspire and uplift you. Your heart will go out to the voice you hear. You will feel a connection. These courageous people, willing to share their painful journey, will become your friends. You truly will take their voices with you.

And, oh yes, you will learn from me! You will learn how to see beyond the obvious. You will learn how to peel off the layers until the truth is discovered and life-changing action becomes predictably successful. You will feel soothed as you hear my voice. And, yes, you can take my voice with you as well.

Here's what others are saying about the Audio Sessions:

I just wanted to drop you a quick line and say how bloody impressive these audio interviews are!

They are really painful, mind you, but you manage them really well!

What I gained from these interviews was the strong realization that there are real people out there who are struggling with these issues. Of course I know that at one level (and counsel plenty of them myself) but it was very impacting to get a sense of the number of people who must be suffering in this way. I thought it could be extremely strengthening for someone in a similar situation to hear a real person like this and so realize that they are not alone!

OK. I'm raving, but the bottom line is that I was really surprised as to how impacting I found these interviews.

Father Dave
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The most obvious benefit was hearing a story that was so similar to my own. While satisfying and reassuring, it also made me view my own experiences from a third person lens--that was valuable. I'm not sure why exactly. Perhaps because I felt that, even though she was confused, I could view her situation clearly. That distance is something I've been totally lacking in dealing with my own situation.
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This tape makes me feel that all my confusion is normal & that recovering from an affair is a process. I can be aware of the process in spite of very strong feelings.
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It makes me feel like it can really happen when I hear other "victims" saying that they feel that they can turn their experience into something positive for their marriage...make it even better than it was before the affair.

But there's More than the Taped Coaching Sessions...

Yes, in addition to the 19 taped sessions, you receive an introduction and review of each session to print.

The introduction is as it seems; it sets the background for the tape, giving you a summary of the circumstances for that person. You will know something about the featured person before you hear the tape.

The Reviews Offer Two Great Perspectives.

First, I break down the session for you. I may outline the underlying dynamics of that session. I may chart a course for future action. I may talk about the session in terms of the 7 kinds of affairs. I evaluate what I said, what I maybe missed or where we could have gone.

You will know what I think, what goes through my mind after a session.

Second, you will get reviews for each tape from people just like you, those who are in the midst of coping with infidelity.

You will discover what advice others would give to the person in the tape and what benefit each person received from hearing the tape.

You will enter a new world. You will feel surrounded by like-minded, similarly struggling folk, who care about you and are willing to share part of their story and insight. You will learn from them.

Here's what you get in 19 Live Infidelity Coaching Sessions

You receive over 5 hours of recorded sessions. Each taped sessions runs from 15-20 minutes, enough to hear the story, pinpoint a couple key issues and patterns and move toward some resolution. The 19 tapes:

Crazy Behavior Addresses Craziness - audio with John

I Want to Be Wanted: Infidelity and Breast Cancer - audio with Martha

Overwhelm! Questions! Should I Date? - audio with Marcie

How Do I Pull The Plug When I Care So Much? - audio with John

Broken Promises. Broken Spirit. Broken Body - audio with Julie

A Turning Point Changes Your World - audio with Jackye

How Can I Compete with a 29 Year Old Blond Bombshell? - audio with Fiona

Self Esteem and Eric's Wife's Predator - audio with Eric

How Sue Catapulted Through Her 3-Week Crying Jag and Meltdown -audio with Sue

Rebuilding Trust with a Husband who Needs "Juice" - audio with Terri

When Sex with the OP is Horrific!- audio with Mike

Emotionally Battered and Bruised by a Rage Affair - audio with Lynnette

You will NEVER Go Back to the Bliss - audio with Lisa

Banishing Him to the Basement Works - audio with LaKeitha

How do I Get Him to Talk? - audio with Erin

Meeting His/Her Needs Won't Work with a Narcissist - audio with Beck

Why is He with a Drama Queen? - audio with Amanda

Rage or Revenge Affair? - audio with Christine

How Does He Flip the Intimacy Switch? - audio with David

Overview, Peer and Expert Review of Each Session

You may download a pdf file which gives a summary, peer review and my review for each session. These reviews vary according to the interest for each tape. For, example, some of the more prevalent concerns (competing with the op, getting him/her to talk) may have up to 30 responses.

You are able to listen to the sessions online if you desire. Buttons with pause, forward and reverse take you where ever you want to go in the session.

The Power of Taking These Voices with You

Do memories, images and thoughts about him/her constantly intrude and zap your energy? Does your mind drift, or you discover you are staring into space?

If so, I highly recommend you download the sessions onto a cd or mp3 player. (If you don't know how to do that, don't worry. I give explicit instructions. I tell you how I do it, and I'm no techie. It's a piece of cake. Really.)

Take the audios with you! Go for a walk listening to the sessions. Listen in your car. Take them wherever you go for one solid week. Immerse yourself in the tapes and notice how your feelings change to relief, optimism and hope.

Hands On Practical, Ground-Breaking, Solid Information

I also want you to be part of my Infidelity Insider.

Please know I was the first one to write an ebook on infidelity, going way back to 2002. And, since that time I've also written numerous articles, compiled mini-ebooks and free reports.

The Infidelity Insider collects in one place some of my first (and sometimes best) resources.

It's also a place where I archive my Newsletters.

Infidelity Insider includes these resources and opportunities:

Download free The complete E-book: Infidelity: Discovery to Recovery - 4 Predictable Stages on Your Journey and Resources for Each Stage. The e-book offers you a look at 4 practical coaching scenarios beginning with "Mary's Caribbean Fling" and ending with "Revenge at its Best." Receive also extensive resources for each of the 4 stages.
Download free The Mini-ebook: "Can Your Marriage Be Saved?" Dr. Huizenga outlines 7 different kinds of affairs. He rates each on a scale of 1-10 for the odds one has in saving that marriage - provided the same patterns continue and no changes are made in how the "offended" spouse approaches the affair and his/her partner.
Download Free the Mini-ebook: "What Will Happen Next?" Again, Dr.Huizenga takes his 7 kinds of affairs and considering the history, patterns and nature of each affair, makes predictions about what the "offended" spouse can expect to happen next? Will the affair last? For how long? and more....
*Download free the mini-series: Infidelity Coach Dr. Bob Huizenga Answers your Questions.* In his practical and direct manner Dr Huizenga responds to such dilemmas as: An Internet Affair...Again? But..."We're Just Friends"? Is This Internet Cheating? What to Do When There is a Child and more...**
Download free "Should I spy?" Take a hard and careful look at the prospect of spying on your spouse. If you are a spouse who suspects your partner might be having an affair, wants to find out if he/she is telling the truth or has a need to discover details of the affair, this E-book is for you.
Download free "Barriers to a Marriage Makeover" Barriers in a marriage need attention before any "makeover," resolution or joint decisions can occur. Often you are not aware of the specifics of the barriers. This e-book guides you in naming your barriers.

And Also...

1. Discovering Infidelity
Find several articles on how to cope during the first days after discovering your partner is involved in an extramarital affair. Learn how to handle the intense feelings one experiences in the following articles:

Infidelity Discovered? 10 Ways to Calm Your Powerful Feelings
Infidelity Discovered: Why He/She Won't Tell Me the Truth?
Infidelity - Day of Discovery: How to "Hold" your Feelings
Day of Discovery: I'm a Mess! Do I Need Meds?
Infidelity: Why the Need to Know is So Strong

2. Emotional Infidelity
Learn techniques to possibly save your marriage if your partner is having an emotional affair. Also, learn the distinctions between two seemingly similar types of emotional affairs, the "just friends" affair and the "falling in love" affair.

Emotional Infidelity: A KEY Tactic to Save the Marriage
Emotional Infidelity: A Love Affair or Just Friends?

3. Sexual Addiction
Are you or your partner sexually addicted? Learn how to handle an affair in which your spouse is sexually addicted. Discover signs typically exhibited by someone who is sexually addicted.

Extramarital Affairs: When Sexual Addiction and Infidelity Meet
Adultery as Sexual Addiction: Should You Stay Married?
Sexually Addicted? 10 Important Questions to Ask

4. Spying
Discover authentic motives and reasons for spying in a relationship facing marital infidelity. Find articles that face the ethical dilemma and some practical implications of spying on a cheating spouse.

Cheating Spouse: 7 Legitimate Motives for Spying
Cheating Husband or Wife: 6 Keys to Know if You are Ready to Handle What You Might Find When You Spy
Cheating Spouse: Is Spying an Invasion of Privacy?
Infidelity: Spying is NOT Revenge

5. Trust Building/Recovery
Learn several effective strategies to rebuild a relationship scarred by the crisis of an extramarital affair. Also, discover barriers that inhibit couples recovering from infidelity to survive the extramarital affair and rebuild their marriage.

10 Crucial and Surprising Steps to Build Trust in a Relationship
Infidelity Recovery for a Relationship: A HUGE Problem
Relationship Tips: 16 Practical Dramatic Ways to Know if He/She is REALLY Changing
Marital Infidelity Recovery: 6 Reasons NOT to "Work on the Marriage"
Marital Infidelity: 11 Stubborn Barriers to "Making over" Your Relationship

7. Infidelity Quickies
Specific scenarios facing those in the midst of infidelity or an extramarital affair. Analysis and coaching tips by Dr. Huizenga for each scenario.

Infidelity Quickie #1: Feels Like the Agony of the Affair will Never End
Infidelity Quickie #2: Hanging on to the Silver Lining in infidelity
Infidelity Quickie #3: The "Surface Stroke" is Killing Me and My Trust
Infidelity Quickie #4: From Depression to a Future Tinged with Hope
Infidelity Quickie #5: How Could She Do This?
Infidelity Quickie #6: Affair Aftermath - Scrambled Puzzle
Infidelity Quickie #7: Three Years and Counting
Infidelity Quickie #8: Cheated Three Times - Who's In Control?

7. General Infidelity Articles
Discover a wide variety of articles on infidelity, ranging from how to tell if your partner is cheating, to why it's important to be physically fit when going through an extramarital affair.

Extramarital Affairs: What Everyone Needs to Know... and what you can do to help
46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair
Relationship Crisis: 6 Reasons to Get Physically Fit
Extramarital Affair: Their Sex is Not Always "Hot"

Here's a Summary of What I Want you to Have:
The Break Free Three Month Membership:

	The Ground-Breaking Ebook, "Break Free From the Affair." Learn how to pinpoint exactly what you must say and do, according to the type of affair facing you, to break free from the affair.
	For couples, after the affair, rebuilding trust and their marriage. Learn how to create a deep rich intimate marriage without "working on the relationship" even if one partner is reluctant and holds back.
	19 Live Infidelity Coaching Sessions with Dr. Huizenga and clients. Hear Dr. Huizenga coach those impacted by infidelity so you can learn even more secrets of how to heal and recover from the infidelity. Take these voices with you in your healing process.
	Become a member of the Infidelity Insider. Claim the ground-breaking articles, ebooks and resources that have helped literally tens of thousands online since 2002.

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Since 1981 I've worked with hundreds of couples and thousands of individuals struggling with broken marriages, facing the agony of infidelity.

In 2002 I was the first to write an ebook specifically on infidelity and publish it online. And, it was wildly successful. I've sold thousands of copies.

I say this not out of arrogance but for you to know that I've devoted a great share of my life to this task. And, out of years of study, research, and thousands of hours of clinical practice, others have affirmed my premises and materials as helpful. Some have found them life-saving and tremendously life-altering.

(Please read a few of the testimonials on the left. I have collected hundreds more since 2002 and continue to collect dozens each month.)

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Here's the bad news - for most people.

Most people when they face infidelity don't have a clue what they're up against. They take all the myths and romantized view of infidelity along in their heads and hearts, hope and pray that their cheating spouse will see the way, either flail around or cave in, or hope that time will heal. (Time doesn't heal, it only represses.)

For those unfortunate folks, it may take 2-4 years to wind their way through the agony of infidelity and it always remains with them in one form or another.

You Don't Have to Do That!

You CAN find relief. You CAN find solid purposeful direction. The healing can begin NOW!

Actually it can begin in the next 5 minutes. And, you don't have to slog through the pain, fear and confusion for the next 2-4 years.

You can greatly accelerate the process.

But, also know, that there is no magic want that will transform this nightmare in the next 5 minutes, or next 5 days or probably for the next 5 months.

It is important for you to first feel relief and then begin analyzing the specific type of affair you face, so you can emotionally distance yourself from your own feelings of fear and uncertainty. you then begin employing specific well-thought-through tactics or skills that stand the best chance of altering the affair.

You see, I've worked with infidelity plagued couples for a long time (private practice for over 2 decades as a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist) and have come created my own 3 Pronged Program that will provide relief (in many cases almost immediately) and help you devise a plan to address the infidelity.

I assume you are ready...

Prong One: I want you to have my ground-breaking E-book, "Break Free From the Affair."

"Break Free From the Affair" is your starting point. "Break Free From the Affair" is a proven foundation that will:

twist your thinking about infidelity (and thereby provide relief from the pain
help you understand the motives of your cheating spouse
help connect his/her personality characteristics to the type of affair
help you ask a vital and most important first question
give you tactics to employ for each type of affair
describe what you should NOT do (but are probably doing)
give you some basic general starting points for your behavior

Spend thirty days with Break Free From the Affair. Begin experimenting with specific tactics (start out slow... easy.. perhaps, depending on the type of affair) and note the response.

As well, I will send you other timely resources and tips to help you keep on the breaking free path.

Prong Two: I will send you the Audio Tapes listed above as well as a access to the Infidelity Insider.

The second thirty days is a time to expand your knowledge and become more precise in what you say, do and think.

You want to have a wide range of words, phrase, and actions that will shake his/her world. Most people keep using the same words, same tactics (ever feel like you are going in circles) and get absolutely nowhere.

The Tape Series and Infidelity Insider will expand your world about infidelity and will continue to open your eyes. You will become a different person (and s/he will notice.)

Prong Three: You will receive "Marriage Makeover."

During the third thirty days you will have a much better idea of where the affair is headed and where your marriage is headed.

Your focus will shift from gathering knowledge, feeling better and experimenting with tentative interventions to the marriage.

Will you stay or will you go?

In the large majority of the cases, at the sixty day period there is an attempt to address the marriage relationship.

"Marriage Makeover" provides the catalyst for both to look at the marriage.

And, if the cheating partner is absent or refuses, the Personal Foundation Program in the Marriage Makeover can be used to powerfully transform your life, preparing you for WHATEVER lies ahead.

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HOW TO "GET OVER IT" FOR GOOD!
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•How to Tell if Your Spouse is Lying!
•Signs of a Cheating Spouse!
•Tactics to Catch Them in the Act!
•Tactics to Learn Their Past!
•Things Cheaters Do to Hide Affairs!
•Mistakes Cheaters Make!
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•Ten Important Questions to Ask Yourself
These questions will Tell you if Saving your Marriage is possible.

•Twenty-one Mistakes You Don't Want to Make

•Reclaim Your Marriage with These Action Steps

*Sixteen Ways to Take Care of yourself
*Twenty-five Ways to Deepen Your Relationship
*Twelve Ways to Expand your Inner Skills

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I look forward to hearing from you today.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, LMFT, CSW

PS - There is hope, even though you may feel the confusion, overwhelm and helplessness. Don't give up. You CAN see your way through this crisis. I know. I hear people talk about it every day. Please take my word for it. Your life can be better. Decide right now to take some action, please - whether it's buying my book or doing something different.

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