Category Archives: Relationship Communication

Affair Recovery: Talking about the Affair

A major road block for many couples recovering from infidelity is talking about the infidelity. Frequently one (the betrayed) spouse needs to talk about the infidelity. The cheating spouse says, “No. It’s over. Let’s not drag up the past. Let’s … Continue reading

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How to fix Your Relationship: STOP Trying so Hard

Put on brakes and shift to neutral. Your efforts to find love and the intimacy you deserve and desire are to be commended. Your intentions are positive. However, you probably are trying TOO hard. When you attempt to “force it” … Continue reading

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What is a Good Apology from the Cheating Spouse?

How do you know if your significant other is truly sorry for what s/he did? Frequently, in my coaching sessions, I hear the betrayed spouse wanting and needing to feel that the cheating spouse is truly sorry. In some cases … Continue reading

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Infidelity in Marriage: Key Points in Infidelity Recovery

Infidelity in Marriage: More key points about infidelity that help you through recovery. Key Point #2: Infidelity isn’t the end of the world Infidelity is discovered and it feels like your world is coming to an end. Yes, it feels … Continue reading

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Marriage Killers

I recently asked my readers to respond to a survey and in one word answer to the question: “What, in your opinion, is the number 1 factor that kills a marriage?” I received hundreds of responses, but for the sake … Continue reading

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It’s Frightening to Truly Love

You see, to love someone and allow someone to love you is truly a risk. Loving and being loved in a genuine authentic, calm, I-can-take-a-deep-breath-and-trust-myself-with-you is downright scary for most of us. It truly is! A wise man once said, … Continue reading

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Is the Distancing Spouse a Bad Person?

Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make the marriage or relationship work. You may hear frequently from your spouse or … Continue reading

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How do you Handle Emotional Distance?

These are some major coping patterns, common to the human condition. You automatically and unconsciously call upon YOUR coping pattern when life gets emotionally rough. That’s where you go. That’s what you do. And, long, long ago, it worked. Your … Continue reading

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Your Sexiness is a Trap

If you are a female, you may carry the weight of believing you must be sexy. You must be provocative. You must look sexy. You must turn him on. Your breasts, you legs, your abs, your rear become the focus … Continue reading

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Emotional Connection without Talking in Your Marriage

The emotional connection or closeness you strongly desire in your marriage can happen. WITHOUT talking. A look, a facial expression, a glance, a touch or a warm movement of the body may “connect.” I prefer to use the word engage … Continue reading

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